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The Plus Sized Barbie Debate Misses the Point

December 24, 2013

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The debate over the latest push for a plus-sized Barbie is steeped in political correctness on both sides and ignores the children the toy is aimed at.

One side argues that Barbies aren’t of realistic dimension and the doll is guilty of influencing feelings of negative body image among young, impressionable girls.

The other side argue that the picture above shows an obese girl and that there is a responsibility to teach children that being overweight is not the ideal from a health standpoint.

My view is that Barbie has already had many decades of reproducing the same type of doll. It’s too late for the company to suddenly become inclusive. So your going to have one overweight doll amongst thousands of stick figures? That’s a great way to make someone overweight feel good, put them in a room crowded with models!

If they release the Barbie pictured above it will be the source of more bullying because one can’t help comparing it against every other Barbie ever produced. Even the marketing pitch shows the comparison.

Let’s take the responsibility of making our children body confident out of the hands of Mattel and lets own this problem and do something about it.

1. We need to tell our children that they are wonderful people, regardless of their size. If you think an overweight girl is unhealthy, try an overweight girl racked with guilt and self loathing.

2. Let’s not put such an emphasis on looks and instead replace the focus with more important attributes like kindness, empathy, loyalty and integrity.

3. Let’s help our young find their talents and show them how they can use their unique abilities to contribute to society in a meaningful way.

Plus sized Barbie is a meaningless, insincere and tokenistic gesture at a time when we need to show our kids that they really matter!

 

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14 Books Featuring Inspirational Female Heroines

December 19, 2013

 

Courtesy of of The Huffington Post

 


The Paper Bag Princess – Robert Munsch, illustrated by Michael Martchenko
Let’s start at the very beginning, with a picture book that will encourage even very young girls to see themselves as the captains of their own destinies. When the titular heroine’s wedding to a prince is ruined by a dragon who steals away her betrothed, the princess replaces her burned up clothes with a paper bag and sets off to rescue him. That’s right – a princess doing the rescuing! I guess that makes her fiancé a gentleman in distress. Along the way, she learns about self-respect, independence, and being her own person. And for our pink-obsessed toddlers – the word “princess” in the title might tempt them to show some interest.


Ella Enchanted – Gail Carson Levine
This book also makes use of fairy-tale princess tropes – in fact, it’s a retelling of Cinderella. And yes, the heroine does fall in love with a charming prince. But in this book, Ella’s magical appearances at the royal balls comprise only a small part of her adventures. Cursed to be obedient, she spends the book struggling to overcome the enforced subservience that has defined her, and in the process must be rebellious, self-assured, and willing to break all the rules to find her own way in life. She tames ogres with her gift for speaking in tongues, and she refuses the man she loves because she knows he can’t save her from her curse. Actually, she saves his life with her quick wits, and he is the one who shows her tenderness and compassion. In the end, only she can save herself, and she has the force of will to do it. Ella is a funny, clever, brave protagonist who refuses to fit herself into the mold society has created for her.


The Hunger Games – Suzanne Collins
Chances are high that any tween you know has already read The Hunger Games … and seen the two movies. But if not, now’s the time. Our heroine Katniss has taken over the role of breadwinner after her father’s death, and she supports her family in a way women are rarely shown to do – by poaching game from beyond the city’s walls. Her skills with a bow and knife come in handy when she is thrown into the arena for a brutal televised event in which teenagers from the poverty-stricken districts surrounding the Capitol fight to the death. Suzanne Collins does an admirable job creating a cast of characters among which gender is the least defining characteristic. All of the teens, especially Katniss, must find a footing somewhere between ruthlessness and compassion in order to survive. Her ability to fight for self-preservation, with a determination long reserved for male characters, is well-balanced with her humanity.


Divergent – Veronica Roth
The dystopian world of Divergent seems set up to eliminate traditional gender roles. Each person is given a chance, at the age of 16, to choose a faction in which they will spend their adulthood. Factions are defined by the virtue they most value — courage, knowledge, love, selflessness, and honesty. It isn’t the women who are loving and selfless while the men are brave and honest; instead, each faction contains both men and women who exemplify these virtues. Our heroine, Tris, chooses Dauntless, the courageous faction, giving readers a daring, rough-and-ready heroine with action-hero qualities female characters are rarely given. She is adept with weapons, willing to undergo extreme physical pain in order to accomplish her goals, and, most importantly, always an agent. She’s not one to wait around for opportunities to pass by or for opponents to outmaneuver her, meaning she’s almost always in control of the situation.


The Lioness Quartet – Tamora Pierce
Tamora Pierce probably changed my life. She’s written a number of YA fantasy series about strong women, but The Lioness Quartet was the one that started it all. The heroine, Alanna, shatters the gender roles of her fictional world, Tortall, by conning her way into a position as a page in training for knighthood. When her sex is eventually revealed, her accomplishments are too great to deny, and she ultimately ends the restriction against female knights in her kingdom. Alanna is clever, strong, and able to take her destiny into her own hands – and while romance is never at the forefront of the series, the books grant her an unusual amount of sexual agency, which is still sadly uncommon even in books set in the modern day. Alanna’s freedom to experiment with romance and her sexuality is treated with responsibility, sending a great message about safety and protection while allowing her to be empowered to make her own choices.


Circle of Magic series – Tamora Pierce
Okay, just one more Tamora Pierce series! The Circle of Magic books are aimed at slightly younger readers, eschewing romantic subplots for straightforward adventure (and heartwarming friendships). The four protagonists, including three girls and two people of color (an unfortunate rarity in YA fantasy), spend the books learning to control their elemental forms of magic – and to use them to battle catastrophic threats to themselves, their loved ones, and even their society. These books emphasize the unique strengths each of us have within ourselves. I know I reread these books over and over, imagining what my special power might be. That’s a mental debate I want my daughters to have someday!


The Hero and the Crown – Robin McKinley
Robin McKinley has written a whole boxful of books perfect for young women – Rose Daughter, The Blue Sword, and Spindle’s End among them. But The Hero and the Crown was particularly inspiring to me. The protagonist, Aerin, is a social outcast despite being the daughter of the king. Her red hair makes her stand out, she can’t perform the magic other royals do naturally, and she hates needlework. But her penchant for more martial arts like sword-fighting ultimately makes her invaluable to the court that once gave her the cold shoulder. Aerin takes on potion-mixing and dragon-slaying over the course of the novel, eventually saving her kingdom from utter desolation. Though the book contains strong men as love interests, Aerin is the unquestioned heroine and leader of the quest – there’s even a fun role reversal in which the wounded princess is tended to after battle by a nurturing male companion!


Enchanted Forest Chronicles – Patricia C. Wrede
Like The Paper Bag Princess, the Enchanted Forest Chronicles turns the princess paradigm on its head by setting the royal heroine next to a dragon. In this version, Princess Cimorene is an independent-minded girl who hates being a princess – so she runs away to keep house for a dragon instead. Of course. Cimorene’s domestic duties showed me, a girl who loved baking, that girly stuff needn’t be entirely incompatible with courage and self-sufficiency. But more importantly, Cimorene is a badass who almost always manages to save the day – even the dragons need her protection! The books are written with a lighthearted wit that sets it apart from more melodramatic epics, making them welcoming to girls who aren’t established fantasy fans.


Caddie Woodlawn – Carol Ryrie Brink
YA novels set in historical times face an extra challenge: They must grapple with the very real restrictions suffered by women and girls in world history. Caddie Woodlawn features a tomboyish frontier girl who chooses a life running wild with her brothers rather than inside dipping candles. The Newbery-award-winning book inspires girls to question the gendered expectations that they live with and to embrace their adventurous, outdoorsy side. Of course, the historical frontier setting presents problems; Caddie’s ultimate need to “grow up” by becoming a subdued, presentable lady, as well as the deeply problematic representations of American Indians throughout the book, both require consideration, and an open conversation with your daughter about these troublesome aspects of the book might allow for a great learning experience.


Little Women – Louisa May Alcott
This beloved children’s classic has four heroines, three of whom don’t seem all that empowering (although we find them quite lovable nonetheless). However, the real protagonist, Jo March, is a real spitfire. Teased for being rough and mannish by her sisters and friends, Jo learns to embrace her bold and outspoken nature. Her ambition, which seems like an unlady-like distraction from domestic duties at first, makes her an asset to the family as she begins to earn money to support them with her writing, and while she somewhat tames her coltish tendencies as she grows into a woman, she never allows pressure to be feminine to change who she really is. As I grew into myself, I found Jo was increasingly my favorite of the little women – she embodies the empowerment we can find by celebrating the strengths and quirks that make us different from those around us.


Little House on the Prairie – Laura Ingalls Wilder
The Little House books, written by the same tomboyish girl who stars in them, offer a window into life in the frontier West – and Laura’s adventurous spirit, like Caddie Woodlawn’s, means she’s always getting her apron dirty running around the prairie, the woods, or the shores of the lake. But she also knows how to help her pa mend a roof and how to get dinner on the table. Like Caddie Woodlawn, these books also speak to a troubled time in America’s history, as we can see in the often stereotypical, othering portrayals of American Indians which should be discussed with young, impressionable readers.


Emily of New Moon – L.M. Montgomery
I’ve documented my adoration for Anne of Green Gables, but there’s just something about Emily Starr, the heroine of L.M. Montgomery’s lesser-known YA series, that really inspired me. Like Anne, Emily is smart, imaginative, and a bit different. Unlike Anne, Emily keeps her career at the center of her life, devoting herself to her writing and eventually becoming a successful novelist. Emily’s character is believed to be semi-autobiographical, as Montgomery herself was (obviously) a career writer. Though Emily’s story culminates in romantic fulfillment, she never wavers from her true self: driven, independent, and strong. She doesn’t change herself for love, and she doesn’t set her dreams of personal glory aside. Instead, she sets out to achieve them with self-confidence, and she continually perseveres in the face of setbacks and easy outs.


A Girl Named Disaster – Nancy Farmer
Nhamo, our protagonist, manages to flee a frightening fate and forge a path through the wilderness to a new life in this engrossing novel. Facing marriage to a cruel man at only 11, Nhamo runs away from the village in Mozambique where she grew up to search for her father across the border in Zimbabwe. Utterly alone, she must overcome the dangers of a treacherous forest, where she ultimately wanders for months, with nothing but her own wits. Such a journey would push anyone to the point of breaking, but Nhamo’s strength and heart keep her alive and moving forward. As a girl who’d read Hatchet and My Side of the Mountain with fascination, it thrilled me to read a wilderness survival story with such a compelling female lead – even girls who hate camping (me) can engross themselves in stories of girl vs. nature.


The Golden Compass – Philip Pullman
Lyra Belacqua stands apart from most girls I read about as a kid. Lyra’s sly, deceitful nature allows her to stay alive throughout the dangers she encounters in the series, but it doesn’t make her morally admirable, or even likable. Reading about a girl who is distinguished by qualities other than her essentially gentle nature is a great reminder that girls, like boys, come in a wide variety of personalities, each with our own strengths and flaws. And Lyra’s scrappiness, will to live, and canny mind make her a compelling heroine to get to know in the course of three epic books every kid should read at least once.

 

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Have Our Children Stopped Dreaming?

December 19, 2013

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AIMEE
I’ve thought it all out. We’re going to
live on a horse ranch, my husband and I.
I’ll work for NASA. And my husband…
he’ll do something completely different.
And we’ll offset each other. Like we’ll
have some things in common but we’ll also
have all these other dimensions that we
bring to the relationship. And that’s how
I know it’ll work.
JOE
(dismissive)
Sounds like a dream.
AIMEE
(right back at him)
It’s good to have dreams. Don’t you
think?

Above is dialogue from the best teenage drama I have seen in many years, The Spectacular Now.

It got me thinking. Do our children have dreams like our parents did? Like we did?

The generation of the moon landing always remind us that the event of man on the moon was not the main cause of celebration – it was the feeling that if we can walk on the moon, we can achieve anything we put our mind to.

Maybe those ambitions and dreams were dashed, leaving my generation feeling less convinced that vision and the determination to see it come to fruition is enough to make it happen. We still had dreams, but perhaps our faith in our capacity to see it through brought on a more lackluster work ethic and more brittle resolve.

Today’s children seem to have taken on our worst habits and abandoned the thirst for achieving something special. They don’t seem to know what they want to be or want to do. They often seem to lack the spark of self-belief to even contemplate achieving something monumental, or at least unique.

You might think I am being pessimistic when it comes to the next generation and their prospects for the future. This is certainly not the case. I have so much faith in our young. They have so much to offer and are extremely willing to learn. They just need to be ignited – to start believing again.

And they don’t need a moon landing or a Mars mission to get them dreaming again. They just need to look at their parents and teachers and role models and feel assured by what they see. If they see us living lives of integrity, taking smart risks, following our dreams, taking pleasure in our lives, they will understand that the hard work required is for a good reason. An achievable reason.We don’t want to raise a generation of children that shelves dreams in preference for the safe and boring road.

It’s up to us.

Tips for Calming Anxious Kids

December 12, 2013

 

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Courtesy of psychologist Daniel B. Peters, Ph.D:

Step 1: Teach How Our Brain and Body Work When We Are Scared

We all have a “fight or flight” survival response that is designed to keep us alive. We have a tiny ball of neurons called the amygdala (ah-mig-da-la), known as our fear center, that runs our in-body security system. When it senses danger, it sends adrenaline through our bodies to make us run fast and fight with one goal, survival!

Step 2: Identify Body Feelings

When your amygdala gets activated, you will feel the physical sensations of worry and fear in your body, especially your head, chest, stomach, and throat. This is because your heart has to beat super fast to get extra blood from your brain and stomach to your arms and legs so you can fight and run fast. The blood leaving our brain and stomach makes us feel light headed, have headaches, have stomachaches, butterflies, and make us nauseous. These feelings are our signal that the Worry Monster is messing with us! Any of them sound familiar?

Step 3: Externalize the Problem

Label your worries and fears as the “Worry Monster” who is a bully who is responsible for making you (and all of us) think worrisome and scary thoughts. The Worry Monster’s job is to keep us from enjoying life. He gets joy from picking on children (and adults) and making them worried and scared. The more you talk about the Worry Monster and gang up on him with your allies, the weaker he will get and the sooner he will go away.

Step 4: Make a Worry List

Make a list of everything your child (and you) worries about. The Worry Monster doesn’t like us to talk about him or how he works, so the more things you put on the list, the better. Once you have done this, put the worries and fears in order starting with the most powerful (severe) at the top and least powerful (mild) at the bottom of the list.

Step 5: Make a Success Ladder

Choose a behavior from the worry list and make a success ladder by breaking it down into baby steps, or rungs, with the ultimate fear or goal at the top of the ladder and the least scary behavior at the bottom. You will need to decide whether you can start with a single fear like swimming or whether the task needs to be broken into parts (looking at a pool) so that you can gain confidence by becoming used to each baby step along the way to conquering your fear.

Step 6: Identify Worrisome and Fearful Thinking

Think about what the Worry Monster tells you to make you feel worried and scared. Take out your worry list, and expose the Worry Monster’s secrets by writing down what he tells you to make you feel scared and worried. For example, next to the worry “being left alone,” you may write, “I might get left at school.” Uncover what he tells you for all your worries and fears — you are exposing him.

Step 7: Change and Modify Thinking

Next to the list of what the Worry Monster tells you, write down new thoughts that are healthier and more realistic. Ask yourself, “What am I thinking? How can I think about this differently?” For example, “I might get left at school,” gets changed to, “I have never been left before” and “Something bad might happen to my mom,” gets changed to, “My mom is strong and can take care of herself.”

Step 8: Practice, Practice, Practice!

Choose behavioral practice activities to tackle the Worry Monster head on. Go to your Success Ladder and start doing the first thing on the bottom of the list until you are bored of it. For example, if you are afraid of dogs, look at a book about dogs until it is not scary and then go to the next rung on the ladder (looking at dogs from far away). Keep moving up the ladder and work your way to the top. Sometimes it goes quickly and other times you may have to practice something over and over.

Step 9: Develop a Coping Toolbox

Make a personalized toolbox to help you take on the Worry Monster when he shows up. This toolbox usually consists of strategies like deep breathing, understanding where in your body you feel the worry and fear, knowing what makes you start worrying or feeling scared, questions to ask yourself to challenge your thinking (“Is it true?), statements to use against the Worry Monster (“I can do this!”; “Take a hike, you cowardly bully!”; “So what?”), exercise, and activities that distract you and help you relax.

Step 10 — Don’t Give Up!

Like all bullies, the Worry Monster does not give up easily. It takes a ton of courage and persistence to drive him away. You have talents to show the world and lots of life experiences to enjoy. By using these strategies, and working as a team, the Worry Monster doesn’t stand a chance. It is time for him to pick on somebody else. Don’t give up. You are a warrior. You can do this!

 

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Kids Films You Might Regret Sharing with Your Children

December 11, 2013

 

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Courtesy of Betsy Bozdech:

  • Bambi
    Why you should watch out: Bambi’s mother’s death takes place offscreen, but it’s still the first thing most viewers remember, even decades later. Bambi’s subsequent frantic search for her is almost as upsetting. Read the full review.

 

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    Dumbo
    Why you should watch out: Dumbo’s mother doesn’t die, but she’s cruelly separated from him after she’s provoked into a scary rampage. The follow-up scene in which she cradles him with her trunk through the bars of her cage window is gut-wrenching. Read the full review.

 

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    Finding Nemo
    Why you should watch out: Some parents we know just skip the first scene of this movie altogether until their kids are old enough to handle Nemo’s mom’s untimely demise at the jaws of a menacing predator fish. Read the full review.

 

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    The Land Before Time
    Why you should watch out: Young dinosaur Littlefoot’s mother is killed by an aggressive T-rex in this otherwise generally upbeat prehistoric adventure. Read the full review.

 

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    The Lion King
    Why you should watch out: Not only does Simba’s dad get trampled to death by a herd of stampeding wildebeests, but Simba unfairly blames himself for the tragedy. Read the full review.

 

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    Stepmom
    Why you should watch out: This story about a family dealing with divorce and remarriage takes a tragic turn when the kids’ mom is diagnosed with fatal cancer. Read the full review.

 

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    We Bought a Zoo
    Why you should watch out: Here, the mom passed away six months before the movie begins, but the impact on her family is very much in evidence. Sometimes watching characters deal with grief can be even more painful than the death itself. Read the full review.

 

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    Up
    Why you should watch out: While Ellie isn’t a parent (which is another emotional aspect of the movie), her death at the end of an extremely poignant montage early in the film has a powerful impact. Read the full review.

 

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    Bridge to Terabithia
    Why you should watch out: Anyone who’s read the book that this touching drama is based on knows what’s in store for fearless, imaginative Leslie — misfit Jess’ only friend — but those expecting a fantasy adventure à la Harry Potter should be warned: Tragedy ahead! Read the full review.

 

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    Grave of the Fireflies
    Why you should watch out: Beautifully animated but unrelentingly sad, this heartbreaking WWII-set anime tale centers on two children — brother and sister — who sicken and die. Read the full review.

 

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    My Girl
    Why you should watch out: The unexpected death of preteen Vada’s best friend (by bee sting, no less) hits many kids very hard, especially since much of the rest of the movie has a sweetly nostalgic feel. Read the full review.

 

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    The Odd Life of Timothy Green
    Why you should watch out: Technically Timothy doesn’t die, but he disappears forever, causing pain for those who loved him, which can be just as hard for kids to deal with. Read the full review.

 

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    E.T.
    Why you should watch out: No, E.T. isn’t exactly a child, and no, he doesn’t really die — but for a few moments, it seems as if he has, and those few moments can be enough to send young fans of the spunky little alien into a tailspin. Also, plenty of kids who love the little alien are still afraid that he might be living with their stuffed animals in the closet… Read the full review.

 

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    Charlotte’s Web
    Why you should watch out: When Wilbur’s dear friend and constant champion weaves her last web after doing so much for others, many kids are caught unprepared. Read the full review.

 

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    Marley & Me
    Why you should watch out: Many families decided to watch this based-on-a-true-story tale because of ads featuring silly dog antics… and were left distraught by Marley’s sad death. Read the full review.

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Teacher Gift Ideas

December 1, 2013

 

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Personally I appreciate any kind gesture, but I would have to say that the parents who bought gifts for my kids were on to a winner. Not only was I deeply grateful for their thoughtful gift but I was a real hit back home.

Below is a list of gift ideas courtesy of teacher Kathy Mathews:

 

1. Gift cards – I personally adored Starbucks gift cards. I would get a bunch of 5.00 cards and transfer them all to my Paul McCartney Starbucks card. I would stop for a treat every on my way to work and be wide awake all the way to Valentine’s day. Target was my second most common gift card and I loved those also. Both are great choices.

2. A written note or card – I saved every single one of these that I got and they are still upstairs in a bin in my sewing room. You really don’t need to spend any money, heartfelt thanks from your child is a fabulous gift.

3. A glowing email to the boss – Every once in a while a parent would email my principal or superintendent and cc me in. One parent even wrote the newspaper! It was terrific, I can’t tell you how much I loved it. Let’s just say most parents who email or call the teacher or the principal are not doing it to praise.

4. A small item for the teacher’s hobby – I had a student whose Mom got me a small quilting iron for getting in corners. I was blown away! This is a tricky one to copy as you have to know the teacher’s hobby.

5. An item which matches the teacher’s passions – I love U of I and the Cubs. I had students give me pennants or cute signs. I put them on the walls of my classroom and when I retired I decorated all the walls of my garage and I smile every time I pull the car in.

6. School supplies – We had a very small budget for supplies and all the rest came from our personal money. (Or what we could “borrow” from our husband’s office.) I once had a parent give me a gift bag of post it notes. I was in 7th heaven!

7. Small item related to the subject matter – I taught Spanish and French. I had students bring me back small items like Eiffel Towers or Mexican vanilla from trips to the country. I love those! (I also got margarita glasses from a parent once back when things were a little less regimented in schools. I actually liked them but I wouldn’t recommend an alcohol related gift.)

8. Ornaments – I know there are teachers groaning out there but I liked teacher ornaments and I still have some I received on my tree.

9. Bags – Teachers are all bag ladies. I once had a parent give me a Lands End canvas bag with my name embroidered on it. I still have it and will have it forever. All cute bags are welcome.

10. Books – I have gotten lovely art or travel books about Spain, France and Mexico. They are still on my book shelves.

I do want to add there are gifts I would avoid. Teachers have allergies and restrictions. I would  NOT recommend the following.

No food – No pets – No fancy smelling soaps and lotions – Please, no small decorative items – Mugs are cute, they are. But how many can you use? And I feel compelled to add no cash or booze.

 

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Why Isn’t There Tougher Penalties for Teachers who Abuse their Students?

November 27, 2013

 

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Every day whilst looking for topical news stories in education I am forced to sift through the myriad of articles relating to teachers who have sexually groomed and assaulted their students. To say this is a heinous crime is a gross understatement.

But how are we as a society supposed to adequately safeguard our precious children when many of these convicted criminals are spared any jail time at all!

Take this case for example:

A St. Charles County teacher accused of molesting students four different times will not spend time in prison.

Joseph Maddock, 34, is out on the streets, free to walk, but he is now a registered sex offender, has lost his teaching license and will be monitored for the next five years. Also, the victim’s mother is okay with all of this.

Prosecutors say Joseph Maddock has a pattern of “grooming” young boys that he teaches, not fully sexually abusing them, but getting too close to them and touching them.

Maddock has taught in 11 different schools mostly in the St. Louis area, but most recently at Andrews Academy and Dynamic Pathways both of Lake St. Louis.

Prosecutors say the “grooming” has happened four times, once in Florida, twice in the St. Louis area, but most recently in St. Charles County, where he has been charged and convicted of the sexual act. On Monday, he was sentenced to five years probation and no jail time.

“He needs to be in jail because children are very susceptible to grown ups and what they think is right and wrong and this was definitely wrong,” said Brian Voss, a St. Charles resident.

“I hate to say it, but it sounds fair to me because nothing really happened,” said Patti Bussgude, another resident.

St. Charles County assistant prosecutor Jillian Anderson says they had to make a decision.

“Perhaps we do not file it at all because we don’t have the full commission of sexual abuse or perhaps we decide that the community is best served by intervening early and doing something,” said Anderson.

She says no, this sentence is not as severe as it would be if the assault had been worse. If Maddock had fully sexually assaulted the child, jail time would have most likely been given. For this prosecuting attorney’s office, doing nothing is not an option.

“We certainly don’t want to be in a position and are not going to be in a position in our office where we wait, we sit back and we don’t file charges until this defendant or any other defendant actually fully commits the crime of sexual abuse,” said Anderson.

 

Monitored for the next five years? Come on! After four separate offenses? He should be monitored to his dying breath!

 

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Valuable Tips for Teaching Children With Autism

November 26, 2013

 

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Courtesy of blog.gryphonhouse.com:

1. Remember that autism is a spectrum disorder.

Children with autism display a range of behaviors and abilities, and they exhibit symptoms that range from very mild to quite severe. The word autism can describe a child who fits anywhere within that range.

2. Always use child-first language when describing the child.

The child with autism who is in your classroom is just that—a child with autism, not an “autistic child.” Child-first language helps others see that you view the child first and the disability second.

3. Focus on the child’s interests.

When trying to encourage a child with autism to play, focus on the interests of the child and make interactions with others as natural as possible.

4. Remember that novel situations can be overwhelming.

Recognize that children with autism may have difficulty adjusting to new play situations and new play materials.

5. Recognize that the environment is important.

Children with autism need a special place in the room where they can go without distraction and without all the sensory input they receive elsewhere.

6. Begin social-skills training early.

Learning how to respond in social situations should begin as early as possible. It is a critical skill for children to possess and enables them to interact with others more easily.

7. View parents as partners.

Parents often agree that the one thing a teacher can do to understand their perspective is to be respectful of their opinions and treat them as valued contributors.

8. Value the uniqueness of each child.

Each child is unique, and while she may have characteristics typical of other children with autism, she will have other characteristics that are not.

9. Remember that there is no one single method that works.

There is no magic pill or specific program that can “cure” or “fix” autism. While many programs and methods have been tried and are successful with some children, they may not be successful with others. Look for methods with a solid research base.

10. Consider that learning about autism is a process.

Learning about autism is not about a product; it is about a process of gathering information and making informed choices, based on the needs of the individual child.

 

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The New York Public Library’s 100 Most Requested Children’s Books

November 24, 2013

 

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Don’t listen to anyone that tells you books no longer make a good Christmas gift. Below are some of the most popular current titles to help you re-engage younger readers:

New York Public Library’s new list of the century’s 100 best kids’ books
“Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day” by Judith Viorst, illustrated by Ray Cruz (1972)
“All-of-a-Kind Family” by Sydney Taylor, illustrations by Helen John (1951)
“Amelia Bedelia” by Peggy Parish, illustrated by Fritz Siebel (1963)
“The Arrival” by Shaun Tan (2006)
“Bark, George” by Jules Feiffer (1999)
“Because of Winn-Dixie” by Kate DiCamillo (2000)
“Ben’s Trumpet” by Rachel Isadora (1979)
“Big Red Lollipop” by Rukhsana Khan, illustrated by Sophie Blackall (2010)
“The Birchbark House” by Louise Erdrich (1999)
“The Book of Three” by Lloyd Alexander (1964)
“The Bossy Gallito / El Gallo De Bodas: A Traditional Cuban Folktale” by Lucia M. Gonzalez
“Bread and Jam for Frances” by Russell Hoban, illustrated by Lillian Hoban (1964)
“Bridge to Terabithia” by Katherine Paterson (1977)
“Brown Bear, Brown Bear, What Do You See?” by Bill Martin Jr., illustrated by Eric Carle (1967)
“Caps for Sale” by Esphyr Slobodkina (1947)
“The Cat in the Hat” by Dr. Seuss (1957)
“Chains” by Laurie Halse Anderson (2008)
“A Chair For My Mother” by Vera B. Williams (1982)
“Charlotte’s Web” by E.B. White, illustrated by Garth Williams (1952)
“Chicka Chicka Boom Boom” by Bill Martin Jr. and John Archambault, illustrated by Lois Ehlert (1989)
“Corduroy” by Donald Freeman (1976)
“Curious George” by H.A. Rey (1941)
“Don’t Let the Pigeon Drive the Bus” by Mo Willems (2003)
“Esperanza Rising” by Pam Muoz Ryan (2000)
“Freight Train” by Donald Crews (1978)
“Frog and Toad Are Friends” by Arnold Lobel (1970)
“From the Mixed-Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler” by E.L. Konigsburg (1967)
“George and Martha” by James Marshall (1972)
“The Giver” by Lois Lowry (1993)
“Go Away, Big Green Monster!” by Ed Emberley (1992)
“Go, Dog, Go!” by P.D. Eastman (1961)
“Goodnight Moon” by Margaret Wise Brown, illustrated by Clement Hurd (1947)
“Grandfather’s Journey” by Allen Say (1993)
“The Graveyard Book” by Neil Gaiman (2008)
“Green Eggs and Ham” by Dr. Seuss (1960)
“Harold and the Purple Crayon” by Crockett Johnson (1955)
“Harriet the Spy” by Louise Fitzhugh (1964)
“Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone” by J.K. Rowling (1997)
“Hatchet” by Gary Paulsen (1989)
“The Hobbit” by J.R.R. Tolkien (1937)
“Holes” by Louis Sachar (1998)
“Honey I Love, and Other Poems” by Eloise Greenfield; ill. by Leo& Diane Dillon
“Ingri and Edgar Parin D’Aulaires Book of Greek Myths” by Ingri and Edgar Parin D’Aulaire (1962)
“The Invention of Hugo Cabret” by Brian Selznick (2007)
“Joseph Had a Little Overcoat” by Simms Taback (1999)
“Jumanji” by Chris Van Allsburg (1981)
“Lilly’s Purple Plastic Purse” by Kevin Henkes (1996)
“The Lion and the Mouse” by Jerry Pinkney (2009)
“The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe” by C.S. Lewis (1950)
#50 Little House in the Big Woods by Laura Ingalls Wilder, illustrated by Garth Williams (1932)
“The Little Prince” by Antoine de Saint-Exupery (1943)
“Lon Po Po: A Red-Riding Hood Story From China” by Ed Young (1989)
“Madeline” by Ludwig Bemelmans (1939)
“Make Way for Ducklings” by Robert McCloskey (1941)
“Matilda” by Roald Dahl, illustrated by Quentin Blake (1988)
“Meet Danitra Brown” by Nikki Grimes, illustrated by Floyd Cooper (1994)
“Mike Mulligan’s Steam Shovel” by Virginia Lee Burton (1939)
“Millions of Cats” by Wanda Gag (1928)
“Miss Nelson is Missing!” by Harry Allard, illustrated by James Marshall (1977)
“Mr. Popper’s Penguins” by Richard and Florence Atwater; illustrated by Robert Lawson
“Mrs. Frisby and the Rats of NIMH” by Robert C. O’Brien (1971)
“Mufaro’s Beautiful Daughters” by John Steptoe (1987)
“My Father’s Dragon” by Ruth Stiles Gannett, illustrated by Ruth Chrisman Gannett (1948)
“My Name is Yoon” by Helen Recorvits, illustrated by Gabi Swiatkowska (2003)
“Olivia” by Ian Falconer (2000)
“One Crazy Summer” by Rita Williams Garcia (2010)
“The People Could Fly” by Virginia Hamilton, illustrated by Leo & Diane Dillon (2004)
“The Phantom Tollbooth” by Norton Juster, illustrated by Jules Feiffer (1961)
“Pierre” by Maurice Sendak (1962)
“Pink and Say” by Patricia Polacco (1994)
“Pippi Longstocking” by Astrid Lindgren (1950)
“Pyramid” by David Macaulay (1975)
“Ramona the Pest” by Beverly Cleary (1968)
“Rickshaw Girl” by Mitali Perkins, illustrated by Jamie Hogan (2007)
“Roll of Thunder, Hear My Cry” by Mildred Taylor (1976)
“Rumpelstiltskin” by Paul O. Zelinsky (1986)
“A Sick Day for Amos McGee” by Philip Stead, illustrated by Erin E. Stead (2010)
“The Snowy Day” by Ezra Jack Keats (1962)
“Stone Soup” by Marcia Brown (1947)
“The Stories Julian Tells” by Ann Cameron, illustrated by Ann Strugnell (1981)
“The Story of Ferdinand” by Munro Leaf, illustrated by Robert Lawson (1936)
“Strega Nona” by Tomie de Paola (1975)
“Swimmy” by Leo Lionni (1963)
“Sylvester and the Magic Pebble” by William Steig (1969)
“Tales of a Fourth Grade Nothing” by Judy Blume (1972)
“Tar Beach” by Faith Ringgold (1991)
“The Tales of Uncle Remus: The Adventures of Brer Rabbit” by Julius Lester, illustrated by Jerry Pinkney (1987)
“Ten Nine Eight” by Molly Bang (1983)
“Tomie dePaola’s Mother Goose” by Tomie dePaola (1985)
“The True Story of the Three Little Pigs” by Jon Scieszka, illustrated by Lane Smith (1989)
“Tuesday” by David Wiesner (1991)
“The Very Hungry Caterpillar” by Eric Carle (1979)
“The Watsons Go to Birmingham, 1963” by Christopher Paul Curtis (1995)
“The Westing Game” by Ellen Raskin (1978)
“When You Reach Me” by Rebecca Stead (2009)
“Where Is the Green Sheep?” by Mem Fox, illustrated by Judy Horacek (2004)
“Where the Wild Things Are” by Maurice Sendak (1963)
“Why Mosquitoes Buzz in People’s Ears” by Verna Aardema, illustrated by Leo and Diane Dillon (1975)
“Winnie-the-Pooh” by A.A. Milne, illustrated by E.H. Shepard (1926)
“A Wrinkle in Time” by Madeleine L’Engle (1962)

 

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More than 1 in 10 U.S. Children Diagnosed with ADHD!

November 23, 2013

 

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Does anyone actually believe this figure is a true reflection of how many children actually legitimately suffer from the condition?

The number of U.S. children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder continues to rise but may be leveling off a bit, a new survey shows.

More than 1 in 10 children has been diagnosed with it, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, which surveyed more than 95,000 parents in 2011.

ADHD diagnoses have been rising since at least 1997, according to CDC data. Experts think that’s because more doctors are looking for ADHD, and more parents know about it.

The condition makes it hard for kids to pay attention and control impulsive behaviors. It’s often treated with drugs, behavioral therapy, or both.

The latest survey found about 11 percent of children ages 4 through 17 had been diagnosed with ADHD. That translates to nearly 6 ½ million children. Half of children are diagnosed by age 6, the study found.

A 2007 survey put ADHD diagnoses at 9.5 percent of kids.

The CDC survey asked parents if a health care provider told them their child had ADHD. It’s not known how thorough the assessment was to reach that conclusion.

ADHD diagnoses were increasing at a rate of about 6 percent a year in the mid-2000s, but slowed to 4 percent a year from 2007 to 2011. That may reflect that doctors are closer to diagnosing most of the kids with the condition, said the CDC’s Susanna Visser, the study’s lead author.

 

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