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The Most Commonly Asked Questions Sex-Ed Students Ask

January 17, 2020


Whilst I think Sex-Ed should be primarily the responsibility of parents, I can appreciate the reason why schools feel a responsibility to educate students about safe sex and relieve some of their students’ concerns.

If I were teaching Sex-Ed, I would begin by going over some of the most popular questions asked by children to reassure students that their questions are neither unique nor childish or ignorant.

The following fascinating article addresses some of these questions:

Regardless of whether they grew up in the ’80s or the aughts, kids of certain ages always ask versions of the same questions, Roffman has found. For instance, middle-school students, she said, want to know if their bodies and behaviours are “normal.” Many older students ask her at what age it’s normal to start masturbating.

High schoolers routinely ask about romantic communication, relationships, and the right time for intimacy: “Who makes the first move?” “How do you know if you or the other person is ready for the ‘next level’?” “How can you let someone down easy when you want to break up?”  

But some contemporary questions, Roffman said, are very different from those she heard earlier in her career. Sometimes the questions change when the news does. (More than 30 years ago, Roffman started reading two newspapers a day to keep up with the rapid pace of news about HIV and AIDS; she’s maintained the habit since.)

She said she received a flood of questions about sexual harassment after the Senate confirmation hearings for Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas, in the early 1990s. The same decade ended with a spike in student interest in oral sex and behaviors that had previously been considered more taboo, such as anal sex.

Sometimes changing student questions signal broader cultural shifts, like the recent surge in student queries about gender identities. “There would have been questions 20 years ago about sexual orientation, but not about gender diversity,” Roffman said. But one recent eighth-grade cohort submitted questions like “How many genders are there?” “What does ‘gender roles’ mean?” “What is the plus sign for in LGBTQIA+?” and “Why is ‘gay’ called ‘gay’?” She finds a way to answer them all.


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Does Sex Education ‘Rape Children Of Their Innocence’?

January 10, 2016



The parent that declared that sex education “rapes children of their innocence” is entitled to her opinion, but I disagree.

Nice use of hyperbole but off the mark in a big way.

Still, I am not in favour of compulsory sex education in schools. Below are the reasons I come to this unpopular conclusion.


It adds to a ridiculously over-crowded curriculum – People sometimes forget that teachers have a job, and that job is to cover the curriculum, with a focus on the fundamentals. By adding programs, which sound good on the surface, such as anti-gambling, gender issues, drug education, anti-smoking, resilience and diversity, we are being hamstrung in covering the very material we are specifically charged to teach.

You do realise they are learning this stuff at school? – All the programs that are mentioned above and others such as anti-bullying as cyber safety are wonderful programs, but do they work at school level? My experience has been – no. One of the reasons I have taken such an interest in the How to UnMake a Bully series is its ability to transcend a classroom preachiness and get students to make healthier choices without it feeling like a school subject. But this series is in the minority. Most programs are preachy, condescending and written by academics with no real insight into how children really think and feel. Most are full of classroom exercises, which may as well be code for “tune out activities” as far as school students are concerned. What you are left with, for all its good intentions, is a train wreck. Kids approach these lessons with either sarcasm or boredom. It may as well be another mindless trigonometry lesson as far as they are concerned. Whilst the intentions of these programs are sound, we should judge these initiatives by the results not its intentions.

Let’s expect more from parents – Let’s not make our teachers pseudo parents.  Let’s be a society that expects our parents to, well, actually “parent”. It is not the job of the teacher to educate the students in this area. That is the job for the parent. Parents are entitled to hold views about sex that are unique and unpopular, and they are similarly entitled to hold their children to those views, until the children can form their own beliefs. It’s not the job of the teacher to interfere in these matters. I realise that some parents choose to forgo their duties and omit these important discussions, but that is where society should step in. Instead of enabling them to be so lax, they should be reminding them about the need to address these issues with their children. If they don’t, it’s simply not good enough. Telling parents that if they don’t do it someone else will enables them to be mediocre. Do we really want to encourage our parents to be mediocre?


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The Five Day School Trip that Resulted in 7 Students Getting Pregnant

December 22, 2014


This will not go down as one of the most successful school camps of all time:


SEVEN girls, aged 13 to 15, have fallen pregnant after a five-day school trip to their country’s capital city and their parents are being blamed.

The schoolgirls, from the city of Banja Luka, went to the Bosnia and Herzegovina capital, Sarajevo.

Nenad Babici, the National Coordinator for Reproductive Health of the Republika, told that it was discovered that the seven schoolgirls fell pregnant on the school trip.

The school in Banja Luka had taken 28 girls to the nation’s capital city for a five-day trip to visit museums and historic sights in the city, ranked among the finest in the world.

Furious parents are demanding to know why there was such a lack of teacher supervision, reported the Daily Mail.

However, Babici blamed parents for not educating their children properly.


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School Distributes Condoms to 6th Graders

June 7, 2014



I was under the impression that 6th graders were just at the age of puberty. It saddens me that pre-teens are thought to be in need of such drastic measures. Surely there is an alternate way to get kids as young as that to make smart decisions:


An Oregon school district plans to offer condoms to students starting in sixth grade as part of an updated sex education policy aimed at decreasing teen pregnancy, sparking debate over whether 11-year-olds are too young for such a program.

The plan by the rural Gervais School District comes after a 2013 survey by nursing students found that 7 percent of district high school girls had experienced pregnancy and 42 percent of students reported “never” or “sometimes” using protection.

“Over the past few decades, teen pregnancy in our community has remained somewhat constant, but higher than the board felt comfortable with,” Superintendent Rick Hensel said in a blog post dated Monday.

The district school board approved the sex education policy earlier this month for sixth through 12th graders in the tiny town north of Salem, and Hensel said administrators would hash out details this summer to be implemented in the fall.

The board decided to include middle school students because the middle and high schools are close in proximity and run by the same administration – and because middle school girls are getting pregnant too.

“Every few years, a middle school student either becomes pregnant or is associated with a pregnancy,” he said. “The board felt that the curriculum should reach the students of the middle school.”

But some question whether sixth graders, who are typically 11 or 12 years old, need condoms.

“I have to say that sixth grade to me seems incredibly young,” said Amita Vyas, assistant Professor and Director of the Maternal and Child Health Program at George Washington University. “We really don’t see high rates of sexual activity when we are looking at 13 and under.”

But she said educating young students and keeping them engaged with teachers and parents is a useful way to decrease teen pregnancy.

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Should High Schools Install Condom Vending Machines?

December 27, 2012


Whilst I would ideally wish that condom vending machines were not on school grounds, I can understand why there is a push for them. What I didn’t realise was just how bad the STD ‘epidemic’ was among teenagers:

One-third of Philadelphia’s high schools will be offering free condoms to students in a pilot effort to fight “an epidemic of sexually transmitted disease” in the city, the Philadelphia Inquirer reports.

Students will return to 22 schools following the holiday break to see new clear plastic condom dispensers installed inside the nurse’s office, WTXF reports. While 12 schools in the city already offer condom in health resource centers, the new move aims to increase contraceptive access to students in a city where teens comprise 25 percent of new HIV infections.

The initiative has sparked outrage among a number of Philadelphia parents, who say free condoms will only serve to encourage teens to engage in sexual activity. But school officials point out that parents are able to sign a waiver to opt their child out of the program, and teens will have sex regardless of whether condoms are made easily available to them.

“The reality is: Many of our teenagers, regardless of what adults think, are engaged in sexual activities,” Philadelphia Mayor Michael Nutter told the Inquirer. “Discussion about whether or not they should be sexually active is an appropriate discussion, but if they are, then we need to make sure they’re engaged in safe sexual practices.”

Across the U.S., at least 418 public schools make condoms available to students, according to Advocates for Youth, a group dedicated to educate and assist young people in sexual health. Of those schools, more than half distribute condoms via school nurses or teachers, while just 3 percent use “vending machines.”

The dispenser program in Philadelphia comes after a new initiative in Springfield, Mass. made waves this year for making condoms available to both high school and middle school students, giving students as young as 12 free access to contraceptives at school.

New York City school officials also sparked controversy in September, when the Department of Education announced a plan to make Plan B emergency contraception available to high school girls at 13 schools across the city. Under the program, an effort to curb the city’s teen pregnancy and abortion rate, girls as young as 14 are able to get the morning after pill without parental consent.

New York’s pilot initiative was launched as an addendum to an existing program that distributes free condoms to students.

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A Parent that Means Well Doesn’t Always Do Well

November 13, 2012

Some children get a kick out of watching their parents get irate with school administrators and teachers. They sit back and gladly let their parents fight on their behalf.

Whilst it is important for parents to seek explanations from their child’s school when something comes up, such support is best exemplified with a calm and stable approach. It never works to the child’s benefit when the parent gets too flustered or seeks revenge:

Steven Werner is protesting a Michigan principal’s decision to educate his daughter on porn, calling it an act of bullying and demanding a written apology.

The 10th grade girl went to school on halloween wearing a pink and black female pirate costume the other week, but was called to the Utica High School principal’s office for an outfit that resembled a porn star, Werner tells WJBK. The costume features a short black dress and knee-high black stockings with pink bows.

Werner says that Principal Janet Jones proceeded to tell the teen that she looked like a porn star in the outfit. When the girl asked what a porn star was, “she elaborated to [the girl] what a porn star was and what they do for a living,” Werner said.

“She did say that all men watch porn and it’s a fact of life and I should get real,” he told WJBK. “My daughter was pretty shocked that her principal would explain to her what a porn star is and what a porn star does and about the pornography industry, and I thought it was wrong.”

While the teen wasn’t sent home for her costume, she was told to hide the bows on her stockings, WDIV reports.

The principal should have just come clean and said, ‘Hey, I made a mistake.‘” Werner told WDIV. “I checked the costume, and it looked appropriate. She wasn’t planning on going into porn, and the school doesn’t teach it, and they should keep it out of school.”

In protest, Werner is driving around town in a trailer that says “Mrs. Jones taught my daughter about porn. ‘All men watch porn.'” He says the move is an effort to raise awareness of community happenings, telling WJBK that Jones’ move “is a form of bullying.”

I’m going to take some educated guesses on this report, so please don’t confuse my theories for the facts.

I believe that the child does know what porn is and wasn’t shocked by the comment of Mrs. Jones. Whilst the comment, if said, was humiliating and not appropriate, I can see how schools prefer some basic modesty from their students. That being said, it seems Mrs. Jones could have handled it better.

Mrs. Jones, if this report is in fact accurate, didn’t bully the young girl. The only one in this story that was involved in bullying behaviour was the father, whose response was undignified and completely over-the-top.

Supporting your children is completely understandable, but a character assassination against the child’s principal is counter productive and immature.

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Teaching Union Wants Porn on the National Curriculum

October 25, 2012

The Teachers Union is struggling to be relevant. They can shout and scream, but as recent times have shown, they are neither good for students nor education as a whole. There will be plenty of us that have been assisted by the union and others that have had no benefit from the association. But if they were as relevant today as they once were, they wouldn’t see the need to grab for outrageous headlines.

It is important to note how desperate the union is becoming and how stupid their ideas are. Putting porn on the curriculum would have no real benefit for the child and would represent a legal minefield for teachers and schools.

Children as young as 11 are becoming addicted to internet pornography giving them ‘unrealistic expectations’ of sex, according to new research.

It is now ‘common practice’ for schoolchildren to access hard core pornography at an early age and become desensitised to sexual images.

A study, published by Plymouth University, said that more children are finding themselves ‘hooked’ on internet porn before they become sexually active, leading to problems in later life.

The news comes as a teaching union said yesterday that children as young as ten should learn about pornography as part of the national curriculum.

Ten year-olds being taught about pornography? Are you serious? For every ten year-old that views pornography there are many who have had next to no exposure to it.

It is not the role of a classroom teacher to offer a ‘realistic expectation of sex’. That is the job of the parent. Parents have the responsibility of raising their kids, setting limitations on what they watch and how much they watch and it is their job to educate on personal areas such as sex.

The union should know this better than anyone.

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The Innocence of Youth

October 22, 2012

A 7-year old girl writes a precious note that captures the innocence and simplicity of youth. It is just such a privilege to be working with young people. Their view of the world is refreshingly positive and uncomplicated and their tone lacks the sarcasm that adults often project.


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Adding Sex Education to the Curriculum Comes at the Expense of Something Else

July 5, 2012

Firstly, I believe that it is the parents job to educate their children about sex. As a parent, I believe that it would be a blight on my parenting skills if I left such an important conversation topic to my child’s teachers.

Secondly, although in a perfect world, it would be nice to include every cause and every topic of importance into the curriculum, it is simply not realistic. Adding sex education into the curriculuum would come at the expense of time dedicated to english, maths, science and history. I don’t think that is a good result for students:

But a national survey of 15-29 year olds shows that sexual education across Australian schools ranges from no sexual education or minimal classes focusing on the dangers of sexual activity, to comprehensive lessons on the benefits, as well as the risks, of sexual relationships.

Research shows that less than half of sexually active school students report always using a condom during sex. But, the national survey said, condom use was declining and although young people account for 75 per cent of sexually transmitted infections, just 10 per cent of young people thought they were at risk of contracting an STI or AIDs.

AYAC’s deputy director (young people), Maia Giordana, said with the federal government rolling out national curriculum subject areas, the time was right for reform.”In some schools it’s being taught really comprehensively, and in other schools it’s not really happening at all,” Ms Giordana said.

The assertion that children are choosing not to use condoms because of a lack of education is just plain misleading. Could someone show me evidence that proves that a school sex education program leads to less cases of sexually transmitted diseases?
When will they realise that our curriculum is overcrowded as it is?

Experts Push for Kids to Start Driving at 12

July 3, 2012

Twelve year-olds can’t even make a bed. Why we would trust them behind the wheel beats me:

The Confederation of Australian Motor Sport has developed a pilot program designed to teach children to drive properly before having potentially damaging lessons with a well-meaning parent.

The two-hour course for students aged 12 to 18 includes classroom instruction on road safety, driver attitude and an off-road driving lesson.

CAMS president Andrew Papadopoulos said the course aimed to reduce Australia’s road toll, especially among young adult males.

Mr Papadopoulos wants the pilot rolled out at schools across the state.

“We do sex education from an early age, we don’t expect them to go out and have sex at that early age,” he said.

“It’s a matter of learning.”

Kids already drive at school – they drive their teachers crazy!

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