Posts Tagged ‘Bullying’

School Official’s Solution to Harassed Teen: Get a Breast Reduction

January 19, 2013

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Apparently a 13 year old who is being sexually harassed has no claim based on the size of her breasts:

A Missouri mother was shocked to hear an official at her daughter’s school district suggest that the 13-year-old get a breast reduction surgery to stop other classmates from bullying her.

Tammie Jackson, of Moline Acres in the suburbs of St Louis, said that her daughter, Gabrielle, has been sexually harassed by fellow classmates at Central Middle School because of her large breasts.

When the mother called the Riverview Gardens School District to complain about the bullying, she was shocked by the advice she has received.

According to Jackson, a  district representative told her that while her 13-year-old daughter could be transferred to another school, her breasts are so large that she will always be teased.

The woman then allegedly suggested a solution to the problem: that Gabrielle undergo a surgery to reduce her cup size.

‘It makes me feel like now you are telling me it’s my fault, it’s God’s fault the way he made her,’ Jackson told Fox 2.

If the allegations presented here are in fact true, the school official should be sacked immediately. No child should ever have to undergo surgery of any kind to ward off bullying behaviour. Schools ought to start to get their acts together and stop finding excuses for inexcusable behaviour.

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Teachers Can’t Afford to Make Light of Suicide

December 11, 2012

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I am sure many will fiercely oppose my view that a teacher who asked her students to write an essay from the perspective of someone about to commit suicide, should not be suspended.

Whilst I am of the belief that suicide should not be taken lightly in the classroom, I can understand the intention of the teacher and can see the benefit of exploring themes of self-esteem, frustration, self-loathing and loneliness, all of which can be conjured up through this essay topic.

A teacher has been suspended after asking a class full of teenagers to write suicide notes.

The man, who has not been named, is a French teacher at the Antoine-Delafont school in Montmoreau-Saint-Cybard, near Angouleme, France.

He told the 13 to 14 year olds to imagine what they would say to themselves if they were about to end their lives out of ‘disgust’ for their lives.

The assignment, set in October, read : ‘You’ve just turned 18. You’ve decided to end your life. Your decision is definitive.

‘In a final surge you decide to put in words the reason behind your decision. In the style of a self-portrait, you describe the disgust you have for yourself. Your text will retrace certain events in your life at the origin of these feelings.’

Teen suicides are becoming a growing problem, made worse by the proliferation of social media and mobile technology, experts say.

A recent study by The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention in America, found that one in 12 US teens have tried to kill themselves at least once.

On a larger scale, suicides made up 13 per cent of all deaths among US youths ages 10 to 24 last year, according to the study.

Neuropsychologist Hector Adames said the rise of communication through technology is a major reason why suicide rates are on the rise.

‘What happens with an increase in communication among students is that there’s more pressure. There’s more bullying.’

‘When adolescents and children feel embarrassed, it’s kind of like the end of the world for them.’

Jean-Marie Renault, the school head, confirmed that the teacher had now been ‘officially notified’ of his suspension, following complaints from parents.

‘It was suggested that a student was on the point of putting an end to his life and describing it,’ said Mr Renault. ‘This appears quite disturbing’.

He said the teacher had confessed to feeling ‘confused’ when he set the writing exercise, and later regretted it.

As bad as this story can be made out to sound, let’s not overreact!

Children with Cancer are Being Bullied by Classmates: Study

December 4, 2012

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I just can’t believe it! There is scarcely anything more tragic than a young child suffering with cancer. How anyone can see this as an opportunity to bully astounds me. What kind of society are we if the results of this study is accurate?

Children with cancer are being bullied by their classmates, losing friends and risk falling behind at school, research suggests.

The illness can significantly disrupt a child’s education as well as their ability to make and keep friends, according to a report by a UK children’s cancer charity.

The CLIC Sargent study reveals youngsters with the disease have been bullied by their classmates because they have lost their hair or gained weight – with some even being told they are going to die.

The report, based on a survey and interviews with children with cancer and parents, looked at the impact of the disease on children in primary education.

More than a third (35 per cent) of parents said their child had been bullied or teased when they returned to school because of their cancer diagnosis, or the effects of treatment, such as losing their hair or gaining weight due to steroids.

One parent told researchers that some of their son’s classmates tried to steal his hat and another said that their daughter was picked on because she had lost her hair and gained weight.

Another parent said: ‘James used to have friends at school but the ones closest to him started to be really cruel and nasty to him when he returned after his main cancer treatment.

‘There were occasions when older kids would laugh at him and tell him he was going to die.’

The report, published to mark Childhood Cancer Awareness Month in the UK, found that almost half of parents (47 per cent) said their child had grown apart from their friends.

The same proportion said their child’s school did not help maintain contact with classmates and friends while their son or daughter was off.

About 15 per cent of parents said their child felt different from their classmates and 13 per cent said their youngster felt isolated and excluded.

The study also reveals concerns about the level of education children receive while receiving treatment, and the help they get when they return to school.

About 70 per cent of parents said their child had some form of education when they were off school but just a third (36 per cent) said the primary school kept in regular contact with the hospital school.

The majority of families said they did not feel they were kept well-informed about their child’s education when their youngster was being taught in hospital.

Of all the stories I have covered on this blog, this one has upset me the most. What are schools doing to help with the social challenges that kids with cancer evidently face?

Surely any school worth their salt will invest a considerable amount of time into students with cancer, ensuring that they are coping with the added stresses and burdens. This would certainly include educating the other students and observing social interactions.

 

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Humiliation Solves Nothing (Video)

December 1, 2012

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ruQdkDUnMK0

The popular method of punishing disobedient students with humiliation is a very poor one. It doesn’t bother to get to the crux of the problem and it turns human beings who have made poor choices into show ponies.

I expect that the Principal that dealt with a fistfight by handcuffing its student fighters to each other in a public place, will be praised for his innovative approach. Whilst I love innovation in education, I will not be among those that applaud this stunt.

A first-year principal in Mesa, Ariz., has been thrown into the spotlight for employing a controversial — yet apparently effective — method of student discipline.

When two Westwood High School students got in a fist fight during class this week, Principal Tim Richards gave the teens an choice: suspension or public humiliation — by sitting next to each other holding hands in the school courtyard.

The students chose the latter, hanging their heads as peers watched and taunted them from all sides. Westwood students found the stunt funny.

“Kids were laughing at them and calling them names asking, ‘Are you gay?'” student Brittney Smyers told ABC 15.

My first objection to this method is that it continues the cycle of bullying. By parading these two publicly and submitting them to public humiliation and taunting, the punishment becomes nothing more than a case of turning the ‘bullies’ into the ‘bullied’. Any sensible and authentic punishment wouldn’t have exposed these 2 to the hectoring that they were subjected to.

Additionally, it is the schools job to turn its students into responsible and respectful human beings. Any consequence has to be measured against this objective. Does humiliation make a person want to make good decisions? Does it make them regret their actions? Prevention is important but changing ones mindset is much more important.

Is that easy to achieve? Of course not. But at least it isn’t the cop-out a public humiliation is.

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Brawl Between Student and Teacher Goes Viral (Video)

November 22, 2012

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bRSjrw6gbEU

Teachers do not have the right to get physical with their students no matter how bullied, humiliated or intimidated they are made to feel. I can understand what this teacher was thinking and I sympathise with the position he was put in, but his actions were simply not acceptable. If only teachers were treated with greater respect from the wider community, then students would get a more positive insight into what we do and why we do it. This kind of attitude comes about from a growing lack of respect for teachers from the wider community.

Video of a student punching and attacking a substitute teacher at Palm Beach Lakes High School in Florida is going viral, and school officials are investigating the filmed incident.

WPTV reports that the footage was posted to Facebook with the caption, “BoI only at Palm Beach Lakes smh…” World Star Hip Hop has since picked up the video, drawing more than 841,000 views as of early Tuesday afternoon.

The video begins with an unnamed student and the substitute teacher — identified by students as Mr. Smith or “Smitty” — standing face-to-face in an argument. The student then shoves the teacher and punches him. The teacher tackles the student, chasing him until the teen runs out of the room. It’s unclear what the brawl was about, but students interviewed by WPTV spoke highly of the teacher and said students should show respect for him.

“A teacher should, you know, stand up for himself, but not to go on ahead and you know,” Palm Beach Lakes High senior Darrel Phillips told the station. “I’m speechless right now.”

School officials declined comment on an open case, but say that the substitute teacher has been fired and the student was expelled.

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How Did Coach Sanctioned Hazing Ever Get Off the Ground?

November 21, 2012

The excuse that hazing was once an accepted form of initiation which has been outgrown by a greater sensitivity towards the impact of bullying behaviour is a cop out. It beggars belief why this practice was ever deemed acceptable in any way. It is an awful tradition that not only does not belong in today’s age, but should never have been allowed – ever!

To read that it may still be going on in some schools today is quite upsetting:

A parent is suing Maine West High School for what she calls the sexual assault of her 14-year-old son by members of the varsity soccer team.

The woman, who wore a baseball cap and sunglasses to conceal her identity, said the hazing ritual was sanctioned by coaches at Maine West Township High School. She said that in October the school’s anti-bullying laws, which are required by an Illinois statute, were broken.

“You think when you drop off your son at school, it is a safe place to be. But I feel the coaches should have kept him safe on the soccer field and they didn’t do that,” she said.

The parent was joined by her attorney, Antonio Romanucci, who filed a lawsuit against school officials and coaches. Romanucci said the incident happened September 27 during school hours and on school property. The freshman was pushed down, held down and sodomized by upper classmen who had pulled down his underwear, Romanucci said. The attorney said the hazing was sanctioned by the soccer team’s coaches.

“That behavior, in today’s society, is disgusting. It should never be condoned. It should never have happened,” Romanucci said.

Romanucci says two other freshmen were also attacked.

Six students were petitioned to juvenile court for battery and hazing following a Des Plaines police investigation. Two coaches were temporarily reassigned with pay, pending the outcome of the investigation.

A spokesperson for Maine West Township High School District 207 would not comment on pending legislation, but said the district takes misconduct “very seriously.”

Romanucci said he has evidence that hazing has been ongoing at Maine West for at least four years, and he believes there may be more victims.

Click on the link to read What Principal Would Ever Approve of this Kind of Bullying?

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How About Punishing the Students Who do Something Wrong?

November 19, 2012

 

What is the point of punishing students whose only sin was to dye their hair to raise money for charity? How many students do you know of who actively use their time and energy for raising money for a worthy cause? Not that many I assume. So why demean the concept of consequences and victimise a bunch of selfless students all the the name of order and control.

And does any sane person out there think the punishment these girls had to endure, fits the crime?

Two mothers have been left furious after their daughters were thrown into a school’s locked barred-windowed ‘isolation block’ because they dyed their hair for charity.

Friends Lucy Gyte and Rudi Stables, both 13, were given a dressing down by senior staff after the October half-term when they arrived with their hair dyed in aid of Breast Cancer Research and Children In Need.

Lucy and Rudi – who dyed their hair pink and blue respectively – were inspired to do something for charity after watching last month’s Pride of Britain Awards.

Now their mother’s claim the girls were left too scared to return to school after teachers punished the teenagers by sending them to an ‘isolation block’.

The parents criticised teachers at Wath Comprehensive, Wath near Rotherham, South Yorks, for what they saw as a disproportionate response to the incident.

Mothers Sue Gyte and Jakki Harrison said that their daughters missed three days of school after a ‘terrifying’ experience behind the barred windows and locked doors of the school’s ‘isolation block’.

They also claim the girl’s stay in the block, which lasted for the duration of three individual school days, left them open to bullying.

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What Principal Would Ever Approve of this Kind of Bullying?

November 16, 2012

What happened to the all-inclusive school that caters for all personality types and individual learning needs?

Some Declo, Idaho parents are furious over what they call principal-approved teacher bullying.

Summer Larsen’s students at Declo Elementary School needed to meet a reading goal of 10 points, KMVT reports. Those who failed to attain that goal could choose one of two punishments: have their faces drawn on by fellow classmates or miss recess.

Nearly half the class underperformed. Three chose to skip recess, while six opted to have their faces drawn on by peers — artistic choices included names, mustaches and goatees.

One parent tells KMVT that the teacher’s decision teaches students that bullying is OK.

“Not only was my son punished with bullying but the other students were rewarded [for] bullying,” the parent said. “If you ask any 10-year-old or fourth grade student, ‘I get my face colored on or I don’t get to go to recess,’ they’re going to pick get my face colored on, they did not understand what was going to happen to them later.”

The school principal knew about the drawings, KBOI reports. And while superintendent  says the students had a say in the decision, parents’ concerns are being taken “seriously” and an investigation is underway.

This incident may seem light-hearted to some, but don’t get sucked in by it. What this does it tell students who already feel stupid that they should be made to look stupid too. These kids are not stupid at all. No student should be judged by the way they read, speak or add. They should be judged by their character and attitude. Give me a child that tries and is respectful over one that read fluently but treats others poorly any day.

Click on the link to read The Rise of Teacher Approved Bullying (Video)

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YouTube Video Shows Teacher Being Bullied by Students

November 9, 2012

A video like the one I have posted above can be both a blessing and a curse.

It’s a curse, obviously, because it comes at the expense of a poor, seemingly innocent substitute teacher who was clearly harassed by some of her students. It is quite upsetting that an ever increasing number of students are treating their teachers with the greatest of disdain.

But it’s a blessing too if responded to in a diligent and thorough manner. The wrong way to respond is simply to punish the students involved and leave it at that. The right way to handle such a situation is to realise that such behaviour almost always prevails in an environment that tolerates it. Extreme incidents like this one are almost never one-of-a-kind. I am willing to bet that there have been multiple incidents like this one at this very school that have gone unreported. This footage can make school administrators aware of the likelihood of a bullying culture that can be dealt with by incorporating a number of whole school measures.

Ultimately, a student doesn’t tend to pick on a substitute teacher unless the school culture and his/her classmates tacitly tolerate it. Singular punishments ignores the overriding cultural issues which may be present.

Click on the link to read The Rise of Teacher Approved Bullying (Video)

Click on the link to read Bullies Should Not Be Treated Like Students With Incorrect Uniform

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The Difficulties Faced by Students With Allergies

October 28, 2012

 

In a bid to care for children with strong allergies it seems schools have made allergic children feel socially isolated, different from their peers and vulnerable to being bullied:

TAKARA Rose is the face of a new dangerous fad of playground bullying. The eight-year-old has never hurt or been nasty to anyone, her only “crime” is she suffers a range of allergies.

Mum Alanna describes her daughter’s experience of bullying as terrifying, likening it to having a “loaded gun against her head”.

The year 2 student from Sandringham, in Sydney’s south, is dangerously allergic to nuts, dairy and eggs, meaning if she is exposed to foods containing those ingredients – even brushing past them – she can go into potentially fatal anaphylactic shock.

In a bad week, Ms Rose, 50, is forced to call the ambulance four times because of Takara’s extreme reactions.

Twice, the young girl has been chased by a group of year 6 boys threatening to throw nuts at her, leading her to once lock herself in the school toilets to stay safe.

Takara is among a disturbing number of food allergic children who are being targeted by bullies in Australia, which has one of the highest food allergy rates in the world.

“In her eyes, it’s like holding a loaded gun against her head,” Ms Rose said.

“It’s hard enough to live as restrictive as we do without having the added problem of being bullied by other kids,” Ms Rose said.

Ms Rose also said the school told her the incidents did not constitute “bullying”.

It seems as if the school doesn’t equate life threatening behaviour as “bullying”.  How can we properly protect children when schools continue to make excuses for unacceptable behaviour?

Take this horrible story for example:

Central Coast paediatric nurse and founder of Allerchic website, Stephanie Holdsworth said she knew of one kindergarten child who ended up in the intensive care unit at Sydney Children’s Hospital for four days after having a peanut butter sandwich rubbed in his face by his young tormenters.

These incidents are not simply ‘bullying’ they represent the height of bullying. Nothing is likely to change for allergic kids unless schools are aware of their challenges, actively work to see that they are integrated properly within the school and that the culture of the school is such that bullying and harassment are not taken lightly.

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