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Can a Teacher Be Forgiven for a Bad Joke?

August 17, 2012

I love to make my students laugh. It releases some of their anxiety and makes them more comfortable with whatever activity we are are working on. I am very aware that although humour can be effective teaching tool, it can also be fraught with danger. It is so easy to unintentionally say something that will offend others.

The New York professor facing dismissal for making a joke about the Colorado movie theatre shooter made a terrible mistake. A mistake that was made infinitely worse with the fact that a student’s father was among the victims.

Whilst I don’t excuse his dreadful judgement call, I can’t help but feel that firing him would be a bit unfair. He is probably feeling sick about what he did and I am sure he never intended to offend.

Surely a genuine apology would suffice:

A United States Merchant Marine Academy professor faces dismissal for joking about the Colorado movie theater shootings in front of his students.

A student’s father was among the victims.

The New York Times says Gregory F. Sullivan has been suspended from his tenured position as humanities instructor.

The newspaper says the academy on Kings Point, Long Island, informed Sullivan on Aug. 10 that he had 10 days to contest his dismissal.

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The Need to Blame Anything and Everything for the Colorado Shootings

July 30, 2012

Newsflash: There is only one figure that should be blamed for the devastating and tragic shooting of innocent moviegoers – the gunman himself!

I am sick of reading about all the non-violent, peaceful people held to account for something that had absolutely nothing to do with them.

I have read a condemnation against the parents that let their kids stay up to watch a midnight screening. How dare they try and make grieving parents feel guilt for this tragic events. As if they are not going through enough as it is! Aren’t parents allowed to treat their children every so often without having to feel responsible for the actions of madmen!

I have read that killer, James Holmes, must have been bullied as a child, and if society was alert to the bullying we could have stopped this incident from happening. What message does this sad and sorry excuse send? That victims of bullying can be in some way excused for taking out their aggression on innocent people?

Now I read that the movie theater should have provided better security. Since when was a movie theater ever a security threat? Imagine if an incident happened somewhere else in town and the police response was hampered because police numbers were low due to a movie opening. Can you imagine the outrage? People would be scathing, calling it a misallocation of personnel.

The Colorado movie theater complex that was the scene of a gunman’s massacre this month didn’t have any uniformed security guards on duty the night of the shooting, even though other theaters operated by the same company did provide such protection for the busy premiere of the Batman film “The Dark Knight Rises.”

It’s impossible to know whether guards – often off-duty police officers – at the Aurora Century 16 would have spotted the suspected gunman, James Holmes, and thwarted the attack that left 12 moviegoers dead and dozens wounded on July 20.

Officers hired as guards are generally armed and usually spend their time roaming the complex, checking bags or dealing with minor disputes.

Cinemark provided off-duty police guards at the Aurora theater on busy Friday and Saturday nights. As for other nights of the week, theater operators decide on a case-by-case basis whether to hire security, depending on the likelihood of trouble. The attack came early Friday, shortly after the midnight screening of the Batman film began.

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How Can Facebook Allow James Holmes Tribute Pages?

July 26, 2012

How can we trust Facebook to help us fight cyberbullying if they can’t even ban tribute pages to a murderer? How can we trust Facebook to protect our children from online predators when they can’t stop online propaganda championing a sick murderer? How can we trust Facebook when they claim to be enforcing their age restriction policy when they can’t even take a common sense approach to getting rid of James Holmes tribute pages?

I have no trust in Facebook!

While Facebook pages paying tribute to James Holmes — the alleged shooter in the attacks in a movie theater in Aurora, Colo., last week during the premiere showing of The Dark Knight Rises— may violate all standards of common decency, they apparently do not violate Facebook’s terms of service.

CNN reported that a “few-dozen” such pages have sprung up over the past week, including one with more than 800 likes.

The social network is caught in a no-win situation in cases such as this: If it removes the pages, it is accused of violating free-speech rights. And if it allows the pages to exist, users complain that it allows distasteful, hateful content on its network.

Facebook Spokesman Fred Wolens told CNN that the pages, “while incredibly distasteful, don’t violate our terms,” adding that “credible threats” against specific people or content with the potential to incite violence would be grounds for the deletion of pages.

The free speech argument must be used only within the confines of common sense. Facebook should be ashamed of themselves!

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Don’t Even Try to Huminise James Holmes

July 24, 2012

The speculation that gunman James Holmes was bullied as a child used to try and understand his motives for firing on unsuspecting people is quite unseemly.

Firstly, there is no proof he was ever bullied.

Secondly, even if he was, it wasn’t the system that failed him – he is completely and utterly to blame for his actions. No school system, classmate or schoolyard bully caused him to act this way. As much as I abhor bullying, the victims of bullying can never use it as an excuse to justify murder.

The argument that if we knew he was bullied as a child, it would help us to understand his mind frame and motives  is most irresponsible:

Many of us need to know what was going on in the mind of this man so that we can prevent this type of tragedy from repeating itself. I wondered if he was the victim of bullying since that seems to be the thread of commonality in crimes of this nature. Was James Holmes the victim of bullying and if so, how long did it go on? I’m sure that no one may care at the moment about his state of mind at that time that this horrific incident occurred. At least not until it happens again.

But still, if James Holmes was the victim of bullying, could this all have been avoided? If this were the reason for his actions, could it have been prevented if someone recognized the warning signs and took the appropriate actions? Or am I reaching too high to make sense out of the senseless? Because the simple reality is, if there were no bullying and the only signs that he exhibited is being a loner, then this makes this crime even more terrifying in its randomness. In the days to come as the citizens of Aurora pull themselves together, we will find out more about what made this man do what he did.

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Insensitive ‘Parent Bashers’ Take Aim at Grieving Colorado Parents

July 22, 2012

It is absolutely disgusting to criticise the judgement of the Colorado parents who took their children to the midnight screening of the new Batman movie. How dare they even broach the topic of whether or not children should be up at that time. This is none of their business!

These grieving parents don’t need any more guilt on top of what they are already going through:

Facebook and Twitter have been blowing up the social boards with tweets and posts on the horrific event that took place Friday morning. The social media world is swirling with comments on the children that were at the midnight screening of WB’s The Dark Knight Rises.

Although most have agreed that this massacre could have happened during normal daylight hours as it did at midnight, it does bring to light parental judgments overall. Questions as to why parents would take their children to see a movie at the wee hours of the night, have arisen.

Many others have argued that now is not the time to discuss this issue. But to mimic CNN’s Pierce Morgan: now is the perfect time to expose this because it was due long before yesterday.

Wrong! Now is not the time to be discussing such issues. This topic should never be addressed. It’s time for people to mind their own business!

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Explaining the Colorado Movie Theater Shooting to Children

July 22, 2012

An awful tragedy that is going to unsettle children:

Today, parents across the country are struggling with how to talk to their kids in the aftermath of a tragedy that killed and injured both adults and children. Experts generally agree that after such a tragedy, parents should keep their answers simple, leaving out dramatic details, while reassuring their children of their safety.

Below are some tips by experts in the field:

Watch for Trauma: “Young children may have difficulties identifying and expressing feelings. Parents should pay attention to the children’s play (for instance, preoccupation with certain aggressive electronic games, drawings, repetitive play that imitates the traumatic event or events). Another sign of trauma is avoidance of reminders (in this case, going to the movies or to a show or watching certain movies or avoiding other activities that they didn’t avoid before).” — Dr. Aurelia Bizamcer, Medical Director, Outpatient Psychiatry at Temple University Hospital

Keep Answers Truthful but Simple: “We’re not holding back, but we’re not giving more because the giving more could have the risk ofalarming the child. … As a parent you have an obligation to protect a young child from being overwhelmed.” –Alan Kazdin, Professor of Psychology and Child Psychiatry at Yale University; Director of the Yale Parenting Center.

Reassure Them: “We need to appreciate that kids have different fears. Many will worry about the movies, but others will worry about such events spilling over to other areas, such as the mall, school, the neighborhood. For kids of all ages, it is really important to let them know that these kinds of events are incredibly rare. Movie theaters are very safe places. Just think of all the movies you, mom and dad and everyone has gone to. Things like this really do not happen much at all.” –Dr. Gene Beresin, Director of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry Residency Training, Massachusetts General Hospital and McLean Hospital

Keep Answers Age-Appropriate: “Parents should be sure to pitch the discussion to their kids’ developmental level ? for a 6-year-old, it’s completely appropriate to reassure them of their safety, with some emphasis on the fact that police have caught the person they think did this, and he is no longer at large. For kids over the age of 8, more concrete details are appropriate, along with, perhaps, a general discussion of how to be safe in public — locating exit doors for instance, and getting to safety in the event of any dangerous occurrence.” –Jay Reeve,President and Chief Executive Officer, Apalachee Center

Don’t Make Assumptions: “Don’t project your own feelings, fears and anxietyon kids because you know you don’t really know exactly what your kids are feeling until you talk to them.” –Dr. Jane Taylor, psychiatrist

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