Children of Seperated Couples Should Not Stay Overnight With Father: Parenting Expert

June 15, 2014

Penelope Leach at her home in Hampstead for Helen Wethers interview

As a stay-at-home father I am calling out so-called “parenting expert” for what I believe is blatant sexism:

 

A parenting expert has incurred the wrath of fathers’ groups by claiming that children of estranged couples should not stay overnight with them.

Psychologist Penelope Leach has said that generally children of separated couples aged four and under should not be parted from their mother to have a sleepover with their father. 

Ms Leach, whose book Your Baby & Child: From Birth to Age Five was a bestseller in 1977, said attempts to share children was putting parents notions of ‘rights’  and notion of what is ‘fair’ above what is best for the child.

In her new book, Family Breakdown, she writes that there is evidence that separating children from their mothers reduces brain development, and can create unhealthy ‘attachment issues’.

‘Overnight stays with fathers from as early an age as possible is crucial if children are to form strong attachments with both of their parents.

Ian Maxwell, of the charity Families Need Fathers, added; ‘The bond between fathers and children is just as important.’

Ms Leach also criticises the legal profession in the book, writing: ‘when people say that it’s ‘only fair’ for a father and mother to share their five-year-old daughter on alternate weeks, they mean it is fair to the adults – who see her as a possession and her presence as their right – not that it is fair to the child.’

She has since defended her statements, insisting that ‘being a father is not a reward for good behaviour’.

 

 

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Guess What This Map Represents

June 12, 2014

 

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This map which looks like a bad case of chicken pox unfortunately represents the 74 school shootings in the U.S since Newtown:

 

After the shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, Connecticut, in December 2012, President Obama promised “meaningful action to prevent more tragedies like this.” His gun reform push, focused on a background check measure that had overwhelming public support, failed in the Senate last year, and Congress hasn’t passed any other gun legislation.

At least 74 school shootings happened during those 18 months, according to a tally by Everytown for Gun Safety, a group fighting to pass gun control laws. That’s more than one each week school was in session, with the longest gap between shootings spanning last summer’s break, from mid-June to mid-August.

The most recent shooting happened Tuesday morning at a high school east of Portland, Oregon. The gunman and a student are reported dead.

 

 

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Why Principals Overlook Young Teachers

June 11, 2014

 

 

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I can say with great certainty that the standard of teacher training in this country is lamentable. In my view it is the single biggest factor when it comes to our slipping academic standards. Teachers coming from years of university training are just not ready for the rigors of teaching.

It isn’t surprising that Principals have noticed this. That is why new teachers often find it extremely difficult to get their first job. They are constantly overlooked, regardless of their grades, passion, determination and communication skills. They aren’t overlooked for who they are, but rather where they have come from.

But where the Principals get it all wrong is that they place the blame on the quality of the teachers graduating rather than the quality of the training program. This is a cheap shot and is extremely unfair to the exuberant and idealistic teacher graduates served so poorly by training courses steeped in the theoretical and starved of the practical:

 

TEACHERS should face one-year internships before they get jobs, to stop underperformers permanently entering classrooms, principals will tell the Federal Government.

Australian Secondary Principals Association executive director Rob Nairn said school heads wanted to see a better selection process for teacher education and year-long internships — longer than current teacher practical places — could be a way of doing it.

“At the moment, we have some teachers who are underperforming,” he said.

“We have got to get better at selecting teachers for teacher training.

“We then have to get better at supporting those teachers and developing those teachers so that every teacher is a good teacher.”

Mr Nairn said the principals association would be suggesting the changes to the Federal Government’s Teacher Education Ministerial Advisory Group.

 

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The Classroom Incident that Isn’t Seen as Child Abuse but Actually Is

June 10, 2014

 

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I’m sick of reading multiple stories every year about teachers who react to talkative students by taping up their mouths.

Whilst this is almost invariably dismissed as a passive act where the teacher is demonstrating an important lesson in a unorthodox manner, there is absolutely nothing passive about it. Actually, it is a very violent act! Taping up mouths is the stuff of kidnappers and bank robbers. There is nothing instructive or lighthearted about it.

I would go so far as to say that is akin to getting slapped on the face, but actually it is worse. Firstly, a slap on the face is over in a second whilst a child with their mouth taped shut usually has to wear it for a while. And secondly, nobody laughs when a child gets smacked, but chances are, the taping of a child’s mouth is likely to get at least mild snickers from some students. It amounts to c0mplete and utter humiliation.

And finally I would like my fellow colleagues to realise that a “loudmouth” should never be treated like a child out of control. Talkative children are not behavioral concerns, they are simply a reflection of how well developed and engaging your lesson is. Good teachers don’t crucify students that talk, they see it less as rebellion and more as feedback.

So when school governors choose to call an act of child abuse and an immediate sackable offense as just ‘misguided’ and allow that teacher to go on without any penalty at all, we must draw attention not only to the teacher but to those that can’t see the harm and humiliation involved in forcibly taping a poor child’s mouth shut.

 

A classroom ‘chatterbox’ had her mouth taped shut by a teacher to keep her quiet.

Elise Smith, 11, was made to sit with Sellotape over her lips for 15 minutes as a punishment for talking too much.

School governors criticised the teacher’s actions as ‘misguided’ – but no further disciplinary action was taken.

The teacher has since apologised to Elise and her parents but they want him removed from the school.

Angry father Marc Smith said: ‘The children were all talking in class and were told to be quiet, but my daughter kept on talking.

‘The teacher should just have sent her out. My daughter told me when I got home and the next morning I went to the school. I was fuming.’

At the time of the incident, former headteacher Mike McCandless received written statements from the teacher and other pupils at William Allitt School in Swadlincote, Derbyshire, which was recently placed in special measures following an Ofsted inspection report.

Mr Smith said he was dismayed that the teacher in question was never suspended.

He added: ‘The teacher apologised but he has not been punished enough, in my opinion, because he is still working at that school. I would not personally want him there.’

Jean Mead, chairman of governors, said: ‘This was a misguided action rather than a malicious one.

‘The teacher immediately regretted his actions and apologised.

‘We worked alongside the local authority to carry out a thorough investigation and appropriate action was taken.’

 

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Teacher Headbutts a Student and is Given Permission to Resume Teaching

June 9, 2014

 

A teacher that headbutts a student, particularly if the incident was deemed to warrant a criminal record, should never teach again! How teachers like this one managed to avoid such a sanction baffles me:

A teacher who violently assaulted a child in the classroom was able to continue working despite being given a criminal record for the attack, The Independent can reveal.

Mark Lonnie, 53, headbutted the boy so hard he suffered a chipped tooth and a bloodied mouth and nose, yet the teacher has been able to work for five years after the incident and was cleared last month to resume teaching.

 

UPDATE: Reader ArtyMiss sets the record (and me) straight about errors in the reporting of this case and responds to my words of outrage by offering some understanding as to why and how the incident took place as well as providing a character reference for Mr. Lonnie:

Hello Michael… in response, let me tell you the truth about teachers ‘like this one’, or more specifically this one in particular, and perhaps you will be less baffled. Mark Lonnie had an exemplary teaching career up until this incident. He dedicated his career to teaching the ‘unteachable’… working with teenagers who had been permanently excluded from mainstream education as their levels of behaviour and violence were too extreme. So they end up in SEBD state or residential schools or secure units. During his career he suffered various injuries including broken ribs on 4 separate occasions, punches, kicks, black eye, split lip, spat at, bitten etc etc…. all part of the job in such educational settings. The incident in question occurred in this environment with a youth with a history of violent conduct and assault. The photograph on the Independent web page is deliberately misleading as it depicts a small primary age child looking like they are hiding or crying at a desk. It is highly inaccurate and emotive and likely to prejudice any reader. At this moment the Press Complaints Commission are investigating the Independent newspaper over the untruth, inaccuracies and bias of this article.
Mr Lonnie, was attacked in the classroom, in 2009 ,by a 15/16 year old youth, physically larger than him, with a history of violent behaviour who was threatening to kill him at the time.. The teacher had already stepped in to protect another student from a racist attack by this youth and had told him to leave the classroom. As he was calming the class again, the youth suddenly burst back into the room and assaulted Mr Lonnie, shouting abuse, threatening to kill him and then physically assaulted him first. The same youth had attacked another member of staff a few days earlier and it had taken 3 adult males to restrain him… something this teacher was aware of. All official training for restraining violent students requires 2 members of staff working in a team together. This teacher was alone and cornered in the room by a youth, physically larger than him, with his back literally against a wall, and with all means of escape blocked other than forward, no support staff to help, already assaulted once and fearing further serious attack, he struck out in self-defence, clashing heads with his attacker. For the article to describe this as happening when ” when Mr Lonnie lost his temper when a boy in his art class started misbehaving” is decidedly underpaying the seriousness of the incident.
The article states that ” Mr Lonnie was arrested” -this is untrue too. He went on 2 occasions voluntarily to a police station in the weeks after the incident, first to be interviewed and second to naïvely accept a caution for the affray (the criminal record of the headline), as the youths tooth got chipped.
This case was flagged up due to changes in the law since 2012, and heard at a hearing in public session, at which I was present as an observer. It is a matter of public record (on the NCTL website where the journalist took his story from ) that in the Professional Conduct Panels opinion, after listening to evidence, and background and testimonies that this teacher
>acted spontaneously in “a one off, extreme situation”
>that his “actions were not deliberate”
>and that finding himself already threatened and assaulted first, anticipating more violence “He acted under genuine fear that an attack was imminent”
>and “considered Mr Lonnie to have been acting under duress”
>and “he was under threat from a pupil who was larger physically than him” >and “he did not have the appropriate support”
To make no mention of any of these facts of the case is a distortion of the truth and likely to mislead any reader. The decision document this article is based on states the Panel “was satisfied that Mr Lonnie is not a violent, confrontational man” and posed “no threat”.
The article headline and first paragraph mention “the teacher has been able to work for five years after the incident” – this is misleading as it would lead any reader to assume he had just continued as a teacher all those years. He was devastated by this incident and for 4 years following this was mostly unemployed and not eligible for any social security benefits, with short periods of minimum wage manual work in warehouses and cleaning jobs, had to move home, declare bankrupt, unable to provide for his own family. Again, the Panel make mention of this in their recommendations “Mr Lonnie has already experienced a significant period in which he was unable to work as a teacher whilst the DBS or predecessor bodies concluded their investigations”.
To state that “Michael Gove has now stepped in to overrule the decision” is misleading. These decisions are made by a Decision Maker… in this case Paul Heathcote…who acts on behalf of the Secretary of State’s office. To suggest that it is so important that Gove personally reads over these cases and steps in is, just sensationalism for the sake of the story. Although, the Education Departments sound bites are in full flow at the moment, with an election due next year, so who knows what political machinations are at work.
In conclusion articles like this present a heavily loaded, distorted version of a set of facts and will cause a prejudiced view of this teacher in anyone who doesn’t know him personally, or the true circumstances of the case. It has been a traumatic 5 years for this teacher, and everyone connected with this case is shocked at the overturning of the Panels decision. All the judgemental media has caused severe emotional distress and embarrassment for Mark and his family at an already stressful time. He had only returned into supply teaching in 2013, this time in mainstream, and was really enjoying being able to teach again, with students who actually behaved in classrooms. He was also getting brilliant reports back from these new schools . But now, one man in the governments Education Department, who didn’t even attend the hearing, has overturned the right and fair decision of the Panel… how is this even justice? So this teacher has now lost his supply job as the Prohibition Order has immediate effect. He hasn’t even been able to go into school and say his goodbyes to his colleagues and the students, who are left in the middle of projects and exam work without their teacher. .In particular this ‘Independent’ article, and the spreading of it on social media, will impact negatively on any future work prospects, even outside of teaching as he has been presented in the press and all over the internet as a violent attacker of a young school child. The fact that such a biased poor quality article was published by a national newspaper is distressing enough but the fact that it was published during the 28 day window in which Marks teaching union has the opportunity to appeal to the High Court to contest the Order is a disgrace.
As a teacher who has always been passionate in his profession about affording a second chance to those written off by society it is upsetting that the same compassion is in such short supply to him now. I would ask anyone, now you know the facts, to put yourself in this teachers shoes that day and tell me how much better you would have handled this. I have years of experience working in a senior school setting with volatile students and have been physically injured when furniture is thrown or students fight and lash out but I’m not sure how I would react if directly targeted in a physical attack. When asked at the hearing what he would do if attacked in future his answer was that he would just curl up and take a beating. Is this right? Is this what it has come to in our school system? Only earlier this year a teacher was tragically stabbed to death by a student, in front of her class in a mainstream school. It begs the question that had she had any chance to strike her attacker and escape and be alive today… would she possibly be banned from teaching for injuring him? Perhaps a better angle for a story might be to raise the subject of increasing levels of violence towards staff in the classroom. I see you are in Australia, so maybe it is different there but in the UK it is a serious issue. The punishment meted out to this teacher for a split second reaction in a seriously compromised extreme situation is beyond what is fair or reasonable. Carrying a caution on record for the next 99 years, yes they last for 99 years, is stigma enough. The Panel recognised this and the mitigation in this case lead them to make their decision. To have this chance snatched away and then to be vilified and misrepresented in the media is a heavy burden to bear. Please do not add further to this injustice by spreading press misinformation about a fellow teacher on web education forums and blogs etc. One day, heaven forbid, it could be you being judged…

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School Distributes Condoms to 6th Graders

June 7, 2014

 

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I was under the impression that 6th graders were just at the age of puberty. It saddens me that pre-teens are thought to be in need of such drastic measures. Surely there is an alternate way to get kids as young as that to make smart decisions:

 

An Oregon school district plans to offer condoms to students starting in sixth grade as part of an updated sex education policy aimed at decreasing teen pregnancy, sparking debate over whether 11-year-olds are too young for such a program.

The plan by the rural Gervais School District comes after a 2013 survey by nursing students found that 7 percent of district high school girls had experienced pregnancy and 42 percent of students reported “never” or “sometimes” using protection.

“Over the past few decades, teen pregnancy in our community has remained somewhat constant, but higher than the board felt comfortable with,” Superintendent Rick Hensel said in a blog post dated Monday.

The district school board approved the sex education policy earlier this month for sixth through 12th graders in the tiny town north of Salem, and Hensel said administrators would hash out details this summer to be implemented in the fall.

The board decided to include middle school students because the middle and high schools are close in proximity and run by the same administration – and because middle school girls are getting pregnant too.

“Every few years, a middle school student either becomes pregnant or is associated with a pregnancy,” he said. “The board felt that the curriculum should reach the students of the middle school.”

But some question whether sixth graders, who are typically 11 or 12 years old, need condoms.

“I have to say that sixth grade to me seems incredibly young,” said Amita Vyas, assistant Professor and Director of the Maternal and Child Health Program at George Washington University. “We really don’t see high rates of sexual activity when we are looking at 13 and under.”

But she said educating young students and keeping them engaged with teachers and parents is a useful way to decrease teen pregnancy.


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A Cautionary Tale for Frustrated Teachers

June 5, 2014

 

As this video shows, try to resist badmouthing your students and their parents, because one day you are likely to get caught … and it won’t be pretty:

 

One Elyria, Ohio, mother is extremely upset about the message she received recently from her son’s kindergarten teacher.

After the Crestwood Elementary School teacher left a standard message for mother Ashley Moore, the teacher apparently thought she had hung up the phone and began bad-mouthing Moore’s son while still on the line, according to Ohio outlet WOIO-TV. The teacher’s harsh opinion of the boy was recorded on Moore’s phone.

“He has no common sense,” the teacher — who has not been identified — said in the recording. “He was 7 in May, and he’s the biggest baby in my group. She still probably wipes his butt.”

Moore told The New York Daily News that the call was supposed to deal with her son’s educational progress. The boy reportedly has ADHD, autistic tendencies and gross motor skills issues.

Moore says she has enrolled her son in a new school. “He’s afraid,” she told WOIO. “He does not want to go back to her [the teacher].”

In response to the incident, the director of communications for Elyria City Schools released the following statement, per the Daily News:

Her actions certainly don’t represent the district’s philosophy or the partnerships we have with our parents. We know that individuals can become frustrated but there is no excuse for what occurred and the comments this teacher made.

Superintendent Paul Rigda also told the outlet: “This certainly isn’t how we expect our teachers to behave. … At the same time we understand that they are human. They do have their emotions and opinions and they can vent at the end of the year. I get it, but she crossed a line.”

 

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Tips to Get Kids to Eat More Fruit

June 2, 2014

 

 

 

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A well compiled list on a very real challenge courtesy of The Times:

 

1. Serve children the fruits they like, even if it is at the expense of variety. There is no reason why kids who love bananas shouldn’t have one every day. Eventually, parents can add variety by combining a favorite fruit with new ones.

2. Fruit can be eaten at any time of day as a snack, and not just as a dessert. Consider serving fruit to kids with breakfast, as an after-school snack, or even in a salad with dinner.

3. Set a good example. It is well established that children tend to imitate their parents’ behavior, particularly at mealtimes. So parents should set the example by eating plenty of fruit themselves.

4. Prepare fruit in front of children or involve them in the process. Whether it’s scooping out melon balls for fruit salad, washing berries, or coring apples, giving children a task in preparing fruit will make them more likely to enjoy eating the result.

5. Provide easy access to fruit. Keep a bowl of fruit on the kitchen table and allow kids to help themselves. For children who enjoy eating fruit, sometimes the best way to boost their intake is simply to remind them to eat it when they’re hungry.

 

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10 Tips to Help Children Enjoy Reading

June 1, 2014

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Courtesy of uk.pearson.com:

 

Make books part of your family life – Always have books around so that you and your children are ready to read whenever there’s a chance.

Join your local library – Get your child a library card. You’ll find the latest videogames, blu-rays and DVDs, plus tons and tons of fantastic books. Allow them to pick their own books, encouraging their own interests.

Match their interests – Help them find the right book – it doesn’t matter if it’s fiction, poetry, comic books or non-fiction. Try our top recommendations.

All reading is good – Don’t discount non-fiction, comics, graphic novels, magazines and leaflets. Reading is reading and it is all good.

Get comfortable! – Snuggle up somewhere warm and cosy with your child, either in bed, on a beanbag or on the sofa, or make sure they have somewhere comfy when reading alone.

Ask questions – To keep them interested in the story, ask your child questions as you read such as, ‘What do you think will happen next?’ or ‘Where did we get to last night? Can you remember what had happened already?’

Read whenever you get the chance – Bring along a book or magazine for any time your child has to wait, such as at a doctor’s surgery.

Rhyme and repetition – Books and poems which include rhyme and repetition are great for encouraging your child or children to join in and remember the words.

 

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A Preschooler’s Most Memorable Graduation Speech (Video)

June 1, 2014

 

 

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