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Study Claims that Being Attractive can give you Better Grades

December 17, 2013

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Does anyone actually believe this happens?

Not being attractive as a teenager may have consequences far more reaching than a bruised ego and scribing the occasional bad poem.

A new study suggests that a pretty face can be a source of lifelong advantage – beginning at secondary school – according to a report prepared for the Council on Contemporary Families.

The report, ‘In School, Good Looks Help and Good Looks Hurt (But They Mostly Help)’ says that from high school onwards, people rate better-looking people higher in intelligence, personality, and potential for success — and this often creates a self-fulfilling prophecy.

The sociologists behind the study, Rachel Gordon (University of Illinois at Chicago) and Robert Crosnoe (University of Texas at Austin) also say women gain an eight per cent wage bonus for above-average looks and pay a four per cent wage penalty for below-average looks.

For men, the bonus is only four per cent. But the penalty for below-average looks is even higher than for women – a full 13 per cent.

Gordon and Crosnoe argue that ‘lookism’ creates inequalities comparable to those created by racism, sexism, and family background.

They wrote: ‘(In high school) youth rated as better looking get higher grades and are more likely to attain a college degree than their peers, setting the stage for better economic outcomes through adulthood.

 

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Woman Plans to Give ‘Fat Notes’ Instead of Candy to Trick or Treaters

October 31, 2013

 

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When will people start realising that the kids of today have had enough of the food associated guilt trips? I have never seen a child motivated to change their eating habits on the back of a public shaming, and I probably never will:

Children in a North Dakota neighborhood may be slated to get an awful surprise this Halloween: A local woman is reportedly planning to hand out “fat letters,” instead of candy, to kids she thinks are “moderately obese.”

Valley News Live reported a local Fargo woman called into Y-94 radio recently and revealed her plan to take on childhood obesity by handing out letters targeting trick-or-treaters whom she considers obese.

“I just want to send a message to the parents of kids that are really overweight,” she told the station. “I think it’s just really irresponsible of parents to send them out looking for free candy just ’cause all the other kids are doing it.”

Valley News Live obtained a copy of the letter, in which the woman, who is only identified as Cheryl, writes, in part:

You [sic] child is, in my opinion, moderately obese and should not be consuming sugar and treats to the extent of some children this Halloween season. My hope is that you will step up as a parent and ration candy this Halloween and not allow your child to continue these unhealthy eating habits.

 

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Click on the link to read The Call to Stop Telling Your Children they are Beautiful

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The Unique Challenges that Body Image Represents for Females

October 12, 2013

 

 

Whilst I don’t like women vs men comparisons on universal areas of concern, I couldn’t help but be moved by this extremely personal and perceptive take on the pressures faced by women to maintain a certain figure.

 

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An 8-Year-Old’s Take on Body Image

July 15, 2013

What a wonderful self-assessment this young girl has produced:

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Jeniah, 8: “I like my body. I like my eyes because they help me see different things. I also like my hands because they help me write different things. I also like my feet because they help me walk and have fun. My name is Jeniah and I’m 8 years old!”

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A Father’s Advice to His Daughter About Beauty

July 9, 2013

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Father Chris Cook penned this wonderful letter to his young daughter Susan:

Dear Susan,

Right now your biggest concern in life is figuring out how to get around the child-proof locks on the kitchen cabinets, but one day you will deal with much bigger issues. Being a woman, one of these will be the problem of beauty and the emphasis put on it by nearly everyone in the world.

You will soon learn that the world is obsessed with beauty. As a woman, you will be bombarded with magazines, ads and commercials full of beautiful people telling you that you’re not pretty enough as you are. I wish I could tell you to ignore all of that, but it’s naïve of me to think you can go the rest of your life immune to the barrage of “beauty tips” thrown out by complete strangers.

There are lots of clichés out there about beauty. “Beauty is only skin deep,” “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder,” and so on, but as with most clichés, they say a lot but don’t mean much. So here is some real, practical advice about beauty.

The definition of beauty is intentionally vague. Find your own meaning for it. Don’t let somebody else define it for you.

From the day you were born, your mother and I have tried to tell you how beautiful you are. We have also tried to tell you how kind and caring you are. We value the last two much more than the first one.

One day somebody – it may even be one of your best friends – will tell you that something about you is ugly. Remember that just because one person says something negative about you doesn’t mean everyone in the world feels that way. That works both ways, though. If you think somebody else is ugly, keep your mouth shut. Just because you think so doesn’t mean somebody doesn’t think he or she is the most beautiful person in the world.

Also, whether you tell them to their face or not, calling someone ugly or fat reveals an ugliness in your soul that not even the prettiest smile can erase.

There may come a time when a boy breaks up with you and starts dating a girl you think is prettier than you. Don’t sweat it. People like that are never satisfied with what they have, and there’s no use trying to change them. Let him go chase the next best thing for the rest of his life.

Yes, beauty will get you certain things in life, mostly attention. Sometimes it’s not good attention, and sometimes all it does is call attention to what you glaringly lack in other areas. Like personality.

There has never been a perfect person. NEVER. Everybody has something about their appearance they want to change, and there are lots of people out there who claim to have a way to correct those things. All those people want is your money. Don’t part with your hard-earned cash just to buy a cure for what someone else labels an imperfection.

There’s nothing wrong with throwing on a nice outfit and doing whatever you feel like to make yourself feel pretty. Just make sure that what you see in the mirror is what you like and not what somebody else will like.

When you ask your husband/fiancé/boyfriend the question, “Do I look pretty?” his answer should always be, without hesitation, “Yes” or some form of that. If he says anything else, he probably isn’t right for you.

Do not end or begin a friendship based on that person’s looks or style. Do not think that surrounding yourself with popular, attractive people will make your life any easier. Befriending people of different backgrounds who have a range of outlooks and goals in life, however, will make you a well-rounded person capable of connecting with folks from all walks of life. That’s called a life skill.

Do not choose your role models based on looks, either. Or the fact that they’re on TV all the time. One of your mother’s role models is Ruth Bader Ginsburg. She is an amazing lady. Google her.

If you can get up every morning, look in the mirror and be happy with how you look, you will have achieved something that few people in the world ever will. If you can look at your friends and see what makes each of them beautiful, you will wind up with more friends than you can count.

You should also know that your mother and I are not immune to any of these things. We have both broken several of these rules at some point in our lives, and if you ask, we will tell you how stupid we were and how negatively those decisions affected us. Yes, we have learned and grown from those mistakes, but sometimes the lessons are very hard and have irreparable consequences. I have at least one friendship that ended because I was unable to overlook how that person chose to dress.

Our hope is that you never have to experience that. But remember – no matter what you look like, what clothes you wear, what color your hair is, whether you have the expensive new shoes everyone else does or the cheap imitations, we love you.

And for the record, your mom’s Jack Rogers aren’t real. They’re from Payless.

Love,

Dad

 

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The Call to Stop Telling Your Children they are Beautiful

June 10, 2013

 

Children, like adults have an innate need to feel attractive. It isn’t a manufactured one, it is completely natural. Sure, magazines and other mediums offer an unrealistic and extremely narrow version of beauty, but even without them, human beings would still obsess about their appearance.

That’s why advising parents not to make positive comments about their child’s looks is not constructive. It is based on the assumption that a comment on this issue, whether it be positive or negative, instills in the child an unhealthy message about the importance of looks in the real world. That is absolute baloney! In actual fact, those parents who choose to be silent on the issue risks that very consequence. Because after all, children are very perceptive. They know that parents compliment when there is something there to compliment and become silent when they have nothing positive to say on the matter. Children will just assume that their parents’ silence is due to their average appearance.

The key in life is to be moderate instead of extreme. Instead of limiting your compliments to be solely about looks and instead of saying nothing at all, how about making the child feel good about all aspects of their being such as their intellect, their sense of compassion, their individualism, their values …. and yes, even their appearance.

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Hilary Mantel Should Be Ashamed of Herself!

February 19, 2013

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I’m absolutely sick and tired of reading attacks over the size and shape of certain celebrities. I don’t care whether a person has put on weight, lost weight or is unhealthily thin.

You may argue that a celebrity is a rolemodel and therefore their body shape is our right to deconstruct, criticise and comment on. I disagree. Our children deserve better.

They need to see us desist from judging people based on looks. These judgements do enormous damage, as it teaches them that body image is the defining characteristic of a person. It tells them that a person can be legitimately criticised for looking a certain way. It tells them that unless they look that same way, they aren’t good enough.

Hilary Mantel has broken this very rule by unleashing her vile and poisonous attack on Kate Middleton. By mercilessly pillaging Kate’s body size and public persona she has helped perpetuate the habit of judging people by externalities alone:

She is a double Booker Prize winner, the darling of the literary establishment.

And Hilary Mantel has used her position among the novel-writing elite to launch an astonishing and venomous attack on the Duchess of Cambridge.

Mantel, whose latest books are set in the Tudor court, dismissed Kate as a ‘machine-made’ princess, ‘designed by committee’.

Mantel, 60, also scorned her as a personality-free ‘shop window mannequin’ with a ‘plastic smile’.

She compared Kate unfavourably to both Anne Boleyn – one of her historical heroines – and to Princess Diana, insisting both had more personality.

She said Kate had gone from being a ‘jointed doll on which certain rags are hung’ to a woman whose ‘only point and purpose’ was to give birth.

Mantel said Kate ‘appeared to have been designed by a committee and built by craftsmen, with a perfect plastic smile and the spindles of her limbs hand-turned and gloss-varnished’.

She said the Duchess was quite unlike Anne Boleyn, who was ‘a power player, a clever and determined woman.’

Mantel contrasted her appearance to Prince William’s mother, Diana, ‘whose human awkwardness and emotional incontinence showed in her every gesture’.

Mantel said that when she first saw Kate Middleton, she struck her as ‘a shop-window mannequin, with no personality of her own, entirely defined by what she wore.’

Ms Mantel’s comments on the Duchess of Cambridge’s appearance comes shortly after she spoke about having body issues of her own.

Ms Mantel went from a size ten to a size 20 in nine months after she was diagnosed with severe endometrosis at the age of 27.

The treatment, which included surgery removing her womb leaving her infertile, caused her to gain four stone.

The 60-year-old author said she sometimes dream of being thin again.

Prince William’s wife-to-be was as ‘painfully thin as anyone could wish, without quirks, without oddities, without the risk of the emergence of character’.

She added: ‘Presumably Kate was designed to breed in some manners.

‘She looks like a nicely brought up young lady, with “please” and “thank you” part of her vocabulary.’

Mantel spoke of Kate’s appearance in her first official portrait since marrying William, painted by Paul Emsley, which was unveiled last month.

She said: ‘Her eyes are dead and she wears the strained smile of a woman who really wants to tell the painter to bugger off.’

Mantel went on to say that female Royals were ‘at the most basic… breeding stock, collections of organs.’

St James’s Palace last week criticised a magazine for printing pictures of Kate’s baby bump taken during a break on the Caribbean island of Mustique.

And they were furious last year when pictures of her topless on holiday were printed in Italy – saying ‘a red line had been crossed.’

But Mantel suggested Kate could have few complaints about private pictures of her being taken on holiday – observing: ‘The royal body exists to be looked at.’

‘Some people find them endearing; some pity them for their precarious situation; everybody stares at them, and however airy the enclosure they inhabit, it’s still a cage.’

 

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School Official’s Solution to Harassed Teen: Get a Breast Reduction

January 19, 2013

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Apparently a 13 year old who is being sexually harassed has no claim based on the size of her breasts:

A Missouri mother was shocked to hear an official at her daughter’s school district suggest that the 13-year-old get a breast reduction surgery to stop other classmates from bullying her.

Tammie Jackson, of Moline Acres in the suburbs of St Louis, said that her daughter, Gabrielle, has been sexually harassed by fellow classmates at Central Middle School because of her large breasts.

When the mother called the Riverview Gardens School District to complain about the bullying, she was shocked by the advice she has received.

According to Jackson, a  district representative told her that while her 13-year-old daughter could be transferred to another school, her breasts are so large that she will always be teased.

The woman then allegedly suggested a solution to the problem: that Gabrielle undergo a surgery to reduce her cup size.

‘It makes me feel like now you are telling me it’s my fault, it’s God’s fault the way he made her,’ Jackson told Fox 2.

If the allegations presented here are in fact true, the school official should be sacked immediately. No child should ever have to undergo surgery of any kind to ward off bullying behaviour. Schools ought to start to get their acts together and stop finding excuses for inexcusable behaviour.

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Overweight Doctors and Nurses ‘Should Undergo Stomach Stapling Surgery’

December 31, 2012

 

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The best rolemodels are the ones that act with integrity and treat others with respect. The best doctors and nurses take pride in what they do, give an excellent standard of care and are generally superb at what they do. I don’t care if they are fat, skinny, have a long nose or bushy eyebrows.

A recent report wants to point the finger at overweight medical professionals as if it’s easier for good doctors and nurses to stave off the difficulties of maintaining a trim physique. I don’t care what field you are in or what level of education you have maintaining a slim body is hard work and takes great discipline.

It beggars belief why a rolemodel must be slim before being kind, generous, caring and gratious:

Doctors and nurses who suffer from weight problems should be offered gastric surgery in order to retain credibility with patients on weight loss treatments, a report will say.

Overweight NHS staff ought to be given dietary advice and counselling as well as stomach stapling operations as they are setting a bad example for patients, the Royal College of Physicians said.

Over half of medical staff within NHS organisations are likely to be overweight, in accordance with statistics for the British population.

 

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Self-Esteem Crisis Even More Serious than the Obesity Crisis

December 9, 2012

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The focus on our obesity issues are becoming less interested in helping develop a healthier and fitter society and instead seem slanted towards shaming and belittling people who are struggling because of their weight issues.

This issue will not be properly addressed through stigmas and assumptions.

This shocking story is a case in point:

After a nice meal out, you might expect the check to hurt your wallet.

But you don’t expect it to hurt your feelings.

However, that’s exactly what happened to three California women on Thursday night, when their receipt came with the words ‘Fat Girls’ written across the top.

Christine Duran, Christina Huerta and Isabel Robles were having a good time at the Cameo Club Casino restaurant in Stockton but when they asked for the check they couldn’t believe their eyes.

‘I got the bill, and I was like, why does the receipt say, “fat girls?”‘ Duran told News 10.

She said her pals thought she was joking at first.

‘I was laughing at her, and she was like, “I’m serious.” I’m like, “No, it does not say fat girls, let me see it,”‘ Huerta said.

Duran showed the receipt to her friends who finally believed her.

‘I’m looking at it. I was like, “Oh, heck no,”‘ Robles said.

The ladies quizzed their waiter when he returned to their table but he denied any involvement.

He said that Jeff, whose name was on the receipt, must have typed the offensive slur into the computer as he was taking their order. But he said Jeff had gone for the night.

The three women, upset and outraged, demanded to see a manager.

‘He had a smirk on his face, like it was funny, but he was trying not to laugh,’ Huerta said, describing the manager.

The manager told the women he was sorry for what happened and offered to discount their bill by 25 per cent. But the ladies were unimpressed by the offer.

‘He was like, “Well, I can do 50 per cent,” and we were just like, “Are you serious?”‘ Huerta said.

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