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Leave Imperfect Parents Alone!

July 24, 2012

Is there anything worse than judgmental people who attack hard working, yet imperfect, parents?

A few days ago I wrote about the despicable Twitter and Facebook campaign criticising the grieving parents of the Colorado movie theater massacre for allowing their children to attend a midnight screening. Even so-called ‘experts’ were claiming that this was an appropriate time to be highlighting the importance of enforcing strict bedtimes.

Now we have a case where columnist Susie O’Brien confesses to finding her role as parents quite challenging. Does she get support and useful advice from her readers? No way! She becomes the victim of a backlash ‘of epic proportions‘.

WHY do some people hate mothers so much?

I was totally blown away by the reaction to my piece last week about how I sometimes can’t cope with my kids.

I’m not like model Elle Macpherson, who came out as a “bad” parent this week because she makes her sons do too much homework.

No, my version of monster mothering involves my daughter doing a juicy raspberry spit in my face, and a noisy toddler planking on the floor of a very busy tourist cafe.

In my heraldsun.com.au blog, the backlash against my epic parenting failures was breathtaking.

Andy said: “You really need to teach them some more respect, it’s that simple.”

Alzee said: “You demonstrate the woeful parenting skills of many of today’s parents.”

Mother of 4 Big Kids said: “Your children will understand that you would rather go to work than parent them.”

And Kim C said: “I certainly wouldn’t want my children associating with any six-year-old that treats her mother in that appalling manner.”

It’s evidence, apparently, that I am both a terrible mother and a very bad woman. I love my kids.

Parenting is the hardest task in the world. Harder than brain surgery. Certainly more difficult than teaching. The best parents realise that all children are different, with different skills and needs. This means that we are constantly trying to get the balance right and require many adjustments to our approach along the way.

Those parents that judge others are often hiding their own insecurities. It’s time they reflected on their own parenting skills and learned to mind their own business!

Click on here to read The Unexpected Rewards of Parenting

Click on here to read 5 Humourous Comparisons Between Parenting and Journalism

Click on here to read It’s Not Spying on Your Children, It’s Called Parenting

Would You Let Your 5-Year-Old Swim With Sharks?

July 8, 2012

I wouldn’t even let myself swim with sharks:

Above is a video taken by Ridgefield, Connecticut couple David and Elena Barnes of themselves and their five-year-old daughter Anaia during a vacation with Power Boat Adventures in the Bahamas. In the 9-minute clip, the family snorkels in shallow water with a number of shark breeds (shown being fed by Power Boat employees at the opening of the clip), including mild nurse sharks as well as the more excitable and predatory lemon and Caribbean reef varieties. The video has hit 350,000 views on YouTube and provoked massive amounts of criticism from maritime professionals and parents alike. Before the comments were disabled, the San Franciso Gate’s Mommy Files blog reposted a sample YouTube response from commenter luigib0511:

“I’m an experienced diver who did work for the Oceanic Association scuba diving with sharks and other dangerous fish. What this people have done is an outrage and an extreme stupidity. Swimming with sharks is not a Sea World adventure.”

Who is More Important – the Bully or the Victim?

June 29, 2012

The answer of course is they are both equally important. Why then, when the bully is getting a second chance is there so little effort to cater for the needs of his victim?

He’s been pushed down a ski hill, jumped, beaten and pounded so hard that he’s suffered three concussions.

He’s been bullied so badly over the years that he’s twice threatened suicide.

Yet the expelled teen who’s made Fraser Sutherland’s life a living hell is being allowed back into his high school next year. And administrators have told the 15-year-old victim to suck it up and forgive his “reformed” tormentor – or find somewhere else to go in September.

“I shouldn’t have to leave the school when I didn’t do anything wrong. I believe the person that is doing the harm should leave,” said Fraser, who’s just finished Grade 10 at St. Brother Andre Catholic School in Markham, Ont.

“What we’re fearing is this individual is going to come back to finish the job,” his angry dad, Kirk, said. “What’s it going to take? Does he have to be left lying in a puddle of blood in the school bathroom?”

“Suck it up … or find somewhere else to go?” I hope that line isn’t accurate.

You are talking to a child that had to endure terrible hardships at your school due to one of your students – show some respect!

Our Children and the Disgusting Climate of Fear

March 6, 2012

I love my job but if the Government ever forces me to scare my students in the name of “science” I will plainly refuse. I would sooner lose my job than transfer the negatively geared, sensationalistic, propaganda, intended at frightening children into believing that the world is going to go to bits because of man-made global warming.

I am more than happy to help motivate my students to care for their environment and reduce their own carbon footprints – this is a positive message. However, the Government, United Nations and various scientific agencies have no interest in positive messages. Their game is to fill our young impressionable children with fear and dread. These people believe that a nightmare in the name of science makes the experience worthwhile.

Just watch this advertisement below. This is no underground commercial. This was played at the Copenhagen Climate Summit. It is absolutely appalling! It has as much scientific value as a mound of cow turd! How dare they use children like that. What manipulative cowards they are! Who needs to communicate truths when you can terrorise children?

Anthony Sharwood is right in his assessment of this advertisement and the message we our sending our impressionable young:

One of the worst things I’ve seen in ages was the Copenhagen Climate Summit opening film, where a small child has terrible, apocalyptic nightmares after learning about human-induced climate change.

He is also correct in offering a much more palatable alternative in teaching the challenges of conserving our environment.

My six year old daughter has been learning about Earth Hour at school. Want to know how to really inspire her and others like her to save the world? Get them to love it, not fear it. Allow them to develop their own sense of environmental responsibility, rather than indoctrinating them to feel part of a “problem”.

I’m not a perfect parent. If anyone has an IKEA-style parenthood manual complete with helpful Swedish pictograms, please loan it to me. But one piece of parenting I think I’ve gotten right is instilling a deep love of nature in both my kids.

Together, we’ve bushwalked, skied and swum in some of Australia’s most beautiful locations. We’ve thrown summer snowballs on a New Zealand volcano and caught (and then released) tadpoles in a clear, Blue Mountains stream.

At home, I teach my kids about clouds and the wind direction, and always Google the birds that alight on our backyard trees, so that we can observe their habits armed with a few facts. How many city kids do you know that tell the difference between a white cockatoo and a Corella?

One day, I hope my daughter becomes an environmental scientist or activist who helps save the world. More likely, she’ll live a regular life with a regular job, and that’ll be fine too. Either way, I’m sure she’ll choose to pursue a lifestyle of modest consumption and environmental light-stepping.

If ever called on to teach this subject in such a negative way I will flatly refuse. If they force an educational pack on me I will immediately throw it in the bin (recycle bin, of course).

One wonders why those investing time into spreading the message about our carbon footprint consistently put their foot in it.

The Courts Are Failing to Protect Our Children

November 30, 2011

If you ever needed a reminder at how weak our courts appear to be when it comes to protecting the safety and wellbeing of our children, take the bewildering case of former Tasmanian MP, Terence Lewis Martin.

Mr. Martin was found guilty of sex offences (which included having oral sex and taking photographs) with a 12-year-old girl.

Did he get life imprisonment? Nope!

How about 20 years? Try Again!

Well, surely he got at least a 10 year jail sentence? Not even close!

No, Mr. Martin got to walk free with a suspended sentence!

Walk free?

Why you ask?  Good question!

THE former MP guilty of sex offences with a 12-year-old girl has walked free from court with a suspended sentence, provoking outrage from anti-abuse campaigners and some of the girls’ relatives.

Former Tasmanian upper house MP Terence Lewis Martin had been in custody since being found guilty last week of unlawful sexual intercourse with a young person and of producing child exploitation material.

In the Supreme Court in Hobart yesterday, judge David Porter handed down a 10-month prison sentence, with the balance suspended provided the 54-year-old remains of good behaviour for two years.

Outside court, Martin was abused and challenged by a group that included relatives of the girl.

Justice Porter said a “dominant factor” in his sentencing of Martin was that the former MP had been suffering hyper-sexuality caused by medication for Parkinson’s disease. He had concluded there was a “direct causal link” between this dopamine agonist medication and Martin’s offences.

The judge said the condition caused by the medication had impaired Martin’s ability to make moral judgments and therefore “his moral culpability is reduced”.

“But for the medication, he would not be facing sentencing for this crime,” Justice Porter said.

Martin, a Labor-turned-independent MP and a former mayor of Glenorchy, in Hobart’s north, had oral sex with the girl and took naked photographs of her in September 2009.

Martin had pleaded not guilty and insisted he believed the girl was 18. When first confronted by police, he expressed shock that she was 12 and “disgust” at having engaged in sex acts with a child.

So let’s get this straight:

1. Mr. Martin’s excuse at the time was that the girl looked 18 when she was in fact 12.  Give me a break!

2. The judge says that Mr. Martin wouldn’t have offended if it wasn’t for the medication.  How would he be able to make that statement with such certainty? Even if the medication does indeed take away a person’s moral judgement, it surely doesn’t mean that they will do something this heinous. You can’t tell me that an average person stripped of their moral judgement would start taking up pedophilia as a result of their clouded sensibilities.

3. If this drug is indeed seen as so destructive to a reasonable person’s moral judgement as to compel him to sexually molest a 12-year-old girl, why didn’t the judge call for the medication to be banned. Any bet, the drug stays on the shelves regardless of the implications as a result of this trial.

Either the drug is the culprit and it needs to be banned, or this former MP is just making excuses, in which case he would need to be locked up for many years.

Whatever way you look at it, it seems that this 12 year-old girl, like many others, have been given a very raw deal by our courts.

“Fight Club” School Uncovered and the School Defends it!

June 24, 2011

Twenty four students are suspended in South Australian school Stuart High for starting their own version of a Fight Club at lunchtime.

What makes this story so bizarre is that the school knew about it and didn’t take any action until footage was disseminated online.

The school’s principal says fight club had been going on for some time and they’ll now offer army cadet training for students to exercise instead.

Not only did the school know about it, but they initiated the club:

One of the parents Mick says it started off as an organised activity by the school itself.

“It was an organised activity at the school but the teacher never turned up, so the students took it into their own hands to organise their own exhibition.”

So what does the school Principal have to say about the violent exchanges occurring in the schoolyard every day?

School principal Veronica Conley said the fights were based on the movie Fight Club, and some of the students followed the film’s motto “whatever happens at Fight Club, stays at Fight Club”.

“It was not horrible, they were using boxing gloves and if anyone got hurt they stopped the fight and checked if he was all right,” Ms Conley told The Advertiser last night.

“Some of the parents were upset that we suspended everyone we identified on the footage, even those who were watching, but it was not safe, some schools have boxing at their school but it needs to be supervised.

“When you have kids this young and energetic they look to use that energy. We first became suspicious when we noticed they all failed to come to a soccer competition that occurred on the same day.”

You have got to be joking!  At least the Education Minister is horrified, right?  Nope!

“They went into an unused room and in groups, using boxing gloves, carrying out a fight club was, of course, unauthorised and from time to time some students were injured through that,” he said.

“All of the students who participated and all of the bystanders have been suspended by the school and all of the parents have been notified.”

What about the school?  Who is supervising?  Who suggested such a practise?  What about the Principal that seems to be defending her students’ right to box at lunch time?

What an awful response to a unnaceptable episode.

Why Tolerate Guns at School?

June 16, 2011

Shame on you!  Why would you ever consider allowing people to legally carry guns on school grounds?  How does proposing a bill that allows gun owners with a legal permit to enter school grounds with a gun, worthy of your time, energy or consideration?  Why would gun owners need to carry a gun with them to pick up their kids anyway?

Parents and teachers with concealed handgun permits could legally bring their guns to school under a bill that Cleveland County lawmakers supported in the state House last week.

A measure to loosen gun restrictions in the Tar Heel State would allow concealed carry permit-holders to have their handguns on school grounds if the firearms are kept inside a closed compartment or container within a locked car. Reps. Tim Moore, Kelly Hastings and Mike Hager voted for the bill, which won approval in the House June 7 and is slated for committee hearings in the state Senate.

“If you’re going to pick your child up at school and you’re otherwise a law-abiding citizen and have no criminal intent, you should not be charged as a felon just because you’re exercising your Second Amendment right,” said Hastings, a primary sponsor of House Bill 650.

Supporters stress that those with concealed-carry permits meet stringent safety requirements and pass criminal background checks, but educators fear that allowing handguns on school property would increase the likelihood of violent crime.

“I have concerns both as a superintendent and as a parent,” said Cleveland County Schools Superintendent Dr. Bruce Boyles. “I understand the right to have firearms, but I also understand the potential for them to become a problem on the school campus.

”‘Not like the wild west’

Hastings said allowing adults with valid concealed handgun permits to keep their guns locked securely in the car when they drop off and pick up their children wouldn’t affect school safety. Anyone who can’t legally carry concealed or who intends to commit a crime would still face severe punishment.

“The very few people this will apply to have had to meet a very high burden to be able to carry a firearm,” he said. “It’s not like the wild west. There are still a lot of restrictions in place.”

Parents’ passion for both their children’s education and their participation in sports and activities can sometimes make tempers run hot, Boyles said. Adding guns to that volatile mix, he fears, could put parents, educators and children at greater risk.

“We have parents who come on campus from time to time who are unhappy with one of our decisions or something that’s happened between their child and another child,” he said. “It’s troubling to think about the potential for a change that would allow weapons to be on our campuses.”

With all the problems facing the world today, surely they could have pushed this brainless idea to the side.

 

Eight-Year Old’s Gift To Teacher is a Gun!

June 4, 2011

I appreciate the kindness of parents and students when they write me a short note or give me a gift at the end of the year.  It makes me feel appreciated.  However, if any parent or student is thinking about giving me a loaded gun as a gift, I would beg them to please abstain.  Such gifts I don’t need.

An elementary school teacher in Florida was shocked when she received a loaded gun as an end of the school year present, which turns out was unknowingly packed with the real gift.

A memo from the school principal at Allamanda Elementary explained that a teacher opened a gift at home she found a small handgun at the bottom of the box.

“Where’s the parents at? Where’s the parents of this child? I mean, how did he obtain this gun?” asked parent Jarrett Goddard.

School officials dispersed the news quickly.

A spokesperson for the Palm Beach County School District said in a statement that school police are investigating a report that a student at the school may have given a teacher a gift in a box that also contained a small handgun.

It also said that no one was injured and the investigation is continuing, and no further information is available at this time.

Officials said the student’s grandmother packed the present but didn’t know there was a gun inside the box.

It’s unclear how the gun got there, but it was never in the student’s hands.

What happened to the good old apple?  It’s nutritious and you can’t shoot anything with it.

Meet the 7-Year Old Heroin Dealer

May 22, 2011

I am so glad that I’ve never had to apprehend a seven-year old student giving away heroin by the bag full:

In what sounds like a terrible business move, a Pittsburgh 7-year old was caught giving away bags of heroin for free in class, authorities say. Police are investigating after a teacher caught the student with 18 bags of heroin, reports CBS station KDKA.

The incident took place at Roosevelt Elementary School in Carrick, which houses grades pre-K to 5. Police Cmdr. Maurita Bryant says police are still trying to determine the source of the 18 individual dose packets stamped “magic ticket” that the boy brought to the Roosevelt Primary School on Wednesday Sources say school authorities became suspicious after the boy cut his finger on a razor blade.

Upon questioning the student, a teacher found the 18 suspected bags of heroin in his backpack and locker. Besides the “magic ticket” label, the packets features a bunny coming out of a hat. The boy reportedly told authorities that he got the packets of drugs from his father’s bedroom. When police checked the student’s home, however, they found no trace of drugs. Police spokeswoman Diane Richard said the boy didn’t know what the substance was, but a public schools spokesperson said the boy will face unspecified school discipline. Allegheny County child caseworkers are also investigating.

According to KDKA, the spokesperson said three parents contacted the district after their children brought the drugs home from school.

My mother used to get really angry at me if I returned home from school with my apple still left uneaten in my lunch box.  Imagine her reaction if I turned up with a bag of heroin?

Should Teachers be Dismissed for Leading Double Lives?

April 29, 2011

Whilst I don’t think it’s ideal for a teacher to be involved in the racy novel-writing industry, I’m not sure that the crime befits anything more than a ban on writing future novels.  A teacher caught involved in such activities hasn’t broken laws but they have somewhat tarnished their reputation.  Still, is it really worth more than a slap on the wrist?

Parental complaints have led Midd-West School District officials to investigate a veteran high school teacher who writes erotic romance novels under a pen name.

The teacher, Judy Buranich, of Selinsgrove, has taught at Midd-West for 33 years. Under the pen name Judy Mays, she has been writing novels for a number of those years. Her books include liaisons involving werewolves, aliens and vampires and can be found in the Romance section at Waldenbooks.

Buranich declined to comment about the controversy Wednesday.

On her website, she refers to herself as “a mild-mannered tenth grade English teacher in a small public high school.”

Wesley Knapp, superintendent of the Midd-West School District, said he has received a few complaints, but it was after The Daily Item approached him on April 18 to ask about the connection. Until then, he said, “I didn’t know anything about it.”

Knapp said he has told those making complaints “that we’d look into it.”

He declined to discuss the matter further.

“When it’s a personnel matter, I can’t comment,” he said.

Deanna Stepp, mother of a district student, said: “We are not questioning Mrs. Buranich’s teaching credentials. We are not even questioning her ability as a writer … . What we’re questioning is that the two jobs are not compatible with one another.”

Another parent, Wendy Apple, said she had Buranich as an English teacher in high school.

“I thought she was a top-of-the-line teacher,” Apple said.

But the erotica, she said, “is unethical, totally unacceptable. Period. It just sort of sickens and saddens me to know everybody’s sort of looking at this like, hey, this is OK.”

Apple has received comments and messages on her Facebook page, she said, from people who are attacking her for speaking out.

Apple said she heard the rumor from several students, and started during her own research. Although most of Buranich’s defenders are saying it’s not an issue because she does the writing on her own time, Apple said, “then how did these kids find out? These kids knew what kind of writer she was.”

As a result of her speaking out, which she had contemplated for about a month, Apple said her son, who has Buranich as a teacher, has received backlash at school as well.

“I wholeheartedly believe that more parents are looking at things the same way we are,” Apple said.

Writing as Mays on Facebook on April 22, Buranich said, “The world is full of idiots.”

She also referred to support she has gotten.

“I have a lot of people supporting me, including students and ex-students,” she wrote.

She wrote that she hopes the expose will make the sales of her books go up, and already has.

Meanwhile, a Facebook page titled “Support Judy Mays (Mrs. Buranich)” hit 88 likes by Wednesday afternoon.

Cindy Wagner, manager, at Waldenbooks, said the novels are under the category of “Romance,” not “Erotica” at the bookstore. She said the books are already tagged when they arrive, and she simply places them on the shelves according to those tags.

So should teachers be allowed to lead a double life?  At what point would they be taking it too far?  Do you think that the parents of Ms. Buranich have what to complain about?  Do you agree that she should be advised to quit writing these novels while she is still teaching?