I love a strong teacher with principles and whilst I don’t agree with her stance, I admire Carol Thebarge’s integrity. By refusing to unfriend her students from her Facebook page after getting an ultimatum to comply or quit, Carol will get a great deal of support from good teachers who believe in the benefits of connecting with their students.
But this and so many more restrictive rules isn’t about “good teachers”. They were not designed to protect vulnerable students from “good” teachers. They were designed to protect students from those teachers who struggle to keep proper professional boundaries.
As much as I admire Ms. Thebarge’s stand, I am firmly on the side of the school on this one:
A SUBSTITUTE teacher is ending her 35-year career because she opposes her school’s social media policy.
Carol Thebarge, 79, recently took to Facebook to announce that she was leaving her New Hampshire job after being told by administrators that she had to unfriend students on Facebook.
“Today will be my last day at Stevens High,” Thebarge wrote last week. “I was given an ultimatum. To either delete every student from my facebook, and do not post pictures of them (they always loved this) or be terminated.”
Known as Mrs T to many, Thebarge noted that administrators first asked her to unfriend students from Facebook several years ago. However, after students started asking why they were deleted, she simply hid her friends list so that school officials could not see it. She eventually reversed her decision to hide the list, and she said officials had left her alone about the issue until recently.
“The students have loved my site,” Thebarge wrote in her post. “I have loved to share pictures of the cats, my grandchildrens’ achievements, and the wisdom I have gained throughout my journey.”
Administrators took renewed interest in Thebarge’s Facebook after another teacher at the school, Christopher LeBlanc, was arrested for having an inappropriate relationship with a student, according to the New Hampshire Union Leader. The school’s social media policy does not allow for teachers to be friends with students on Facebook.
Claremont School District superintendent Middleton McGoodwin told the outlet that he asked Thebarge to reconsider her decision to leave but stressed she would have to comply with the rules.
“In truth, being a caring, lovely woman doesn’t give you immunity to ignore a school board policy that’s designed to protect everyone,” he told the outlet.
WBZ-TV notes that some students were trying to get the sub her job back.
“She wasn’t harming anybody,” student Kayla Jennison told the station. “She was a great person and always helped us.”
On Facebook, Thebarge later said she was not asked to reconsider. She also thanked the members of the community for their support.
“I honor the comments that disagree with this difficult decision, for I also recognize the inherent dangers within social networking,” Thebarge wrote in a Facebook post. “But I further recognize that the blanket policy intended to protect the children, also holds the subtle message that ‘all’ teachers cannot be trusted to communicate with their students outside the classroom.”
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Topical Teaching 
April 10, 2014 at 7:48 am |
The only problem I have with this is for teachers working in small districts. I worked in one and several of the teachers there had their children in our school. As good parents they kept track of their kids FB pages and as many parents do they had their kids friends on their own friend lists (I have the kids of two of my best friends on my list, then again I try really hard to watch what I post) but depending on how the policy is written it would be breaking the rules for those teachers to have even their own kids on their FB friends list. Other than that though it’s just safer. I only accept friend requests from former students that have graduated or if they dropped out (and unfortunately there have been a few) when they turn 18, incidentally the same time I allow them to start calling me by my first name 🙂